Where have all the husbands gone? – Take the poll!

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Marriage rates in the United States and the UK are at an all-time low.
According to Peter Lloyd in a series in London’s Daily Mail, Britain’s marriage rate is at its lowest level since 1895: “The state of matrimony is not just ailing. It is dying out faster than a mobile phone battery. For an army of women, Mr. Right is simply not there, no matter how hard they look for him.”
In an op/ed for Fox News, May 1, 2015, Suzanne Venker writes that things are no better this side of the Atlantic. According to Pew Research Center, the share of American adults who’ve never been married is at an historic high—and men are more likely than women to have never made it down the aisle (23% vs. 17% in 2012).
Venker asks “What gives? Why are men here and abroad avoiding the altar in spades?,” and offers two reasons:

1. Because they can: Men used to marry to have sex and a family. They married for love, too, but they had to marry the girl before taking her to bed, or at least work really, really hard to wear her down. Those days are gone.
When more women make themselves sexually available, the pool of marriageable men diminishes. “In a world where women do not say no, the man is never forced to settle down and make serious choices,” writes George Gilder, author of “Men and Marriage.”
Scoff if you wish. Call me a fuddy-duddy. But how’s that new plan working out?
2. Because there’s nothing in it for them: What exactly does marriage offer men today? “Men know there’s a good chance they’ll lose their friends, their respect, their space, their sex life, their money and — if it all goes wrong — their family,” says Helen Smith, Ph.D., author of “Men on Strike.” “They don’t want to enter into a legal contract with someone who could effectively take half their savings, pension and property when the honeymoon period is over.Men aren’t wimping out by staying unmarried or being commitment phobes. They’re being smart.”
Unlike women, men lose all power after they say “I do.” Their masculinity dies, too.
What’s left of it, that is. In the span of just a few decades, America has demoted men from respected providers and protectors of the family to superfluous buffoons. Today’s sitcoms and commercials routinely paint a portrait of the idiot husband whose wife is smarter and more capable than he. (This is one of my pet peeves. ~Eowyn)
There was a time when wives respected their husbands. There was a time when wives took care of their husbands as they expected their husbands to take care of them.
Or perhaps therein lies the rub. If women no longer expect or even want men to “take care of” them — since women can do everything men can do and better, thank you very much, feminism — perhaps the flipside is the assumption that women don’t need to take care of husbands, either. And if no one’s taking care of anyone, why the hell marry?
For women, the reason is obvious: kids. Eventually most women decide they want children, no matter how long they put it off to focus on their careers. So they often nab the best guy they can find, usually the one with whom they’re currently sleeping, and convince him to get married.
If the man refuses, we call him, as Smith notes, a “commitment phobe.” But is that fair? Perhaps these men know all too well that women initiate the vast majority of divorces — anywhere from 65-90 percent, depending on demographics. And when they do, they take the kids with them and hang hubby out to dry with the help of a court system that’s heavily stacked in their favor. In the past, Mom got the kids because she was home with them doing the thankless, unpaid, mountainous work associated with that role. Today, neither parent is home, so there’s no reason the default custodial parent should be Mom.
So remind me, why would a man marry today?
No, really. What’s in it for him?

To the above two reasons for the declining marriage rate, I’ll add a third:
3. Government welfare: Women, especially those low on education and skills, don’t need men to support them and their kids any more. They have the Welfare State — government as their husbands who provide for them without expecting or demanding anything in return.
The traditional man-woma) family has been the bedrock of societies and human civilization itself. With the corrosion of the family, people become more and more atomized and isolated. That, in turn, empowers the state even more.
See DCG’s post, “Feminists are insufferable: Let’s stop idealizing the home-cooked family dinner“.
Let’s hear from you!



~Éowyn

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Kevin Lankford
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Kevin Lankford

It crossed my mind just the other day watching some promotion on T.V.. Almost in every instance, whether some advertisement for some ridiculous product, a promotion for a restaurant or fast food franchise, vacation resort, well no matter what, a man and woman, and perhaps child or two are viewed in the presentation, but it is the woman voicing all the excitement and attraction of the experience and adventure while the man just stands in silent wonder.

TrailDust
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TrailDust

Great photo. The Rabbids are very funny.

threepercent1775
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Out of my family and my girlfriend’s immediate family, we have seen 5 divorces in 3 years, 3 of which were our parents. Both of our fathers have been taken to the cleaners in regards to the courts.
Tell me again why guys want to get married?

MA in MO
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I could write a book in response to this but I won’t. Maybe the best short answer I can give is something I said to a friend recently. We were discussing homosexuals and how most homosexual men we knew through our places of employment were very polite, considerate, caring, sociable, humorous, self-assured (meaning they did not have that ‘I am worthless’ attitude or ‘I can’t do anything right’ attidude or let the ‘little woman take care of it attitude), work hard, clean, neat and, although had numerous ‘girlie girl’ qualities, also had an air of manliness around them that you… Read more »

japoa
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It’s rather simple , ” Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free ? “

japoa
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Also , notice the rabbits ……Man is smiling and the woman is p’od with a weapon in her right paw . Must be some of that feminist training on display .

Steven Broiles
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Looks like Dorothy Parker was right—a good man IS hard to find. And so is a good woman!

Auntie Lulu
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Auntie Lulu

It is horrible the decay that is pervasive in our society. Just look at the (I think) Verizon ads–they show a woman, who is very smart vs a man, who is unfortunately a total smuck. I cringe each and every time I see these ads which demean “white men.” It is very sad, but I can see why men are hesitant to get married–because women suck the daylights out of them. The worst thing that ever happened was that Uncle Sam became the “bread winner” for all these single women who just keep having kids, and having kids, and having… Read more »

truckjunkie
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truckjunkie

What I’ve noticed is that usually a Woman will marry a Man because he’s a good man,a good compromise,with the idea that she can eventually make him into the kind of Man she REALLY wants,but the Man won’t change who he is. A Man will marry a Woman because she’s perfect for him,she’s everything he’s always wanted,but THEN,she CHANGES.

MomOfIV
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MomOfIV

Marriage used to be about confining the act of sex between husband and wife (truly about making love), and the result was procreation. Women used to worry about finding husbands to care for and love and to father children. Men used to want to be protectors and providers and have wives and children to love. Marriage was about a man and woman working together, raising a family in love and in Christ. “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 Today, sex is promoted,… Read more »

Auntie Lulu
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Auntie Lulu

MomofIV . . . your comments are so true, and very well written. Great post by the way!

evh
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evh

In my opinion, the younger generation knows everything there is to know about sex, but nothing at all about romance. There is a difference. Romance is a fine art. Jane Austen knew what it was all about – emotion, mystery, flirting, courtship and true love with a touch of wit. Once perfected, it can keep going for a lifetime.

Lana
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Lana

MomofIV, I think you just about covered it all. This all makes me so sad. If it was just naturally the way things had gone I guess we could say, oh well. But knowing this has all been orchestrated through social engineering by a small group of psychopaths who want to turn things into a brave new commie world, (think THX 1138 where they arrested anyone if they actually had real sex with another human being without permission) really makes me sick. I was in a store just two days ago and overheard a woman my age bragging to the… Read more »

Ti
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Ti

now i know who dan savage is. and i am sorry i do