This Dying Woman Has Cancer Like Brittany Maynard, But Her Response is Priceless

Rate this post Lizz Lovett could choose to take her own life. As an Oregon resident stricken with advanced stage kidney cancer, Lovett could lawfully utilize Oregon’s Death With Dignity Act to end her life prematurely through euthanasia.
This path, chosen by many, was recently launched to the media forefront by Brittany Maynard’s choice to end her own life last year when diagnosed with terminal brain cancer.
When a surgical procedure last spring failed to remove Lovett’s cancer, the wife and mother of four chose a different path. “My life is not a story written by cancer – it’s written by love,” she said. With the help of friend Chris Stefanick, Lovett and her husband, Ryan, released a video documenting her courageous experience.
“I think [Stefanick] saw we still lived joyful lives, and that cancer didn’t define who we are,” Lovett said. “He said he was struck by the dramatic juxtaposition between our life – taking each day as a gift for us to give and receive – and Ms. Maynard’s, where she appeared to want control, by taking her own life.”
In the powerful video, Lovett shared why she is choosing to live despite her terminal diagnosis. “While many of us do not agree on how to think about euthanasia, I do think many of us can still be touched by beauty,” Lovett said. “And from that common experience, I hope we can reconnect how we think about the world and – perhaps – be persuaded to be open in a new way to life.”
Many members of Lovett’s family still hold to the “pro-choice” viewpoint that death by euthanasia is a lawful right. Lovett hopes her story can reach out to them and others faced with this difficult deliberation.
Suffering, Lovett argues, is not the problem. “I hope people will see there can be great joy and love in suffering, and great joy and love can come from it too,” Lovett said. “The stuff of life that has the most meaning – the opportunities for grace, the moments of littleness, humility and weakness that can be made into something so powerful through faith – are in danger of being snuffed out, removed before they even have a chance to occur.”
Lovett believes true dignity is found in living each and every day with love. Finding strength in her faith, Lovett continues to appreciate the time she has left with her family with new perspective.
“Life, indeed, is short,” she said. “And of course, everyone is going to die. I just have a better idea than most of when that may be. I think it is blessing in some ways to have that clarity as I live life each day.”
Her children – aged 2 to 7 – and her husband, remain consistent blessings. Lovett names Ryan as her “backbone of strength.” And Lovett is grateful for the outpouring of support that friends and community members have showered on her family.
“By ending my life prematurely, I lose the opportunity to love, and to be loved,” Lovett said. “We are all in each other’s lives for a reason. This is our journey, something we do together. When we feel the pressure – whether interiorly or from outsiders, subtly or otherwise – to just end it all because we are inconvenient, nothing could be further from the truth. It is through this suffering that our faith grows, our love grows, and the world is transformed, one relationship at a time.”
“I hope people will learn not to confuse an undignified circumstance with a lack of real dignity. I hope people will learn not to confuse pain with suffering. That people will see that what gives our lives greatest meaning is not feeling good, but being good: feeling good is not compatible with suffering, but being good is.
“And since the issue of euthanasia is not going away, I wanted my voice to be heard – to offer a truthful witness to what death with dignity really means.”

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0 responses to “This Dying Woman Has Cancer Like Brittany Maynard, But Her Response is Priceless

  1. I believe this is a decision that is totally personnel and should be kept out of the political, media, religious discussion. This should be up to each and every individual without all of this “do it my way” crappola! Now, before someone jumps my case here are several of my personnel experiences.
    — I watched my mother slowly die of cancer. She had a double mastecomy approx eleven years before she died of stomach cancer. This was a slow agnoizing death. Because of the stupid drug laws, the doctor was unable to provide her with the super strength painkillers she needed. As one drugist put it, “we don’t want her to get addicted!” DAH!
    — I watched my sister slowly die of breast cancer. Lisa, she chose the all-natural treatment and elected not to have surgery or go the radiation/chemo route. A colleague of mine at the time went the radiation/chemo, no-holes-barred medical route for her breast cancer. She died.
    — My father (I was not at his place when this happened) got off his tractor, turned the tractor off, and collasped. Good thing he turned the tractor off or otherwise he would have been run over.
    — My husband has been chronically ill for well over fifteen years. He had a liver transplant eleven years ago. The fall out from that transplant has totally devastated our family. The emotional strain, financial strain, and hardships his transplant has caused will never ever be repaired. Don’t believe it when the people advocating for the transplant tells you that there is financial help to pay for the drugs. There is, but only to a minuminal extent. The six months before his transplant and the twelve months after his transplant, his monthly drugs cost any where between $1,000 – $3,000. That was out of pocket. What the insurance paid I cannot imagine. The hospital bill was well over a quarter million. Fortnunately, I had very good insurance where I worked. I made $32,000/yr which was $25 more a month than we were allowed, so my husband could be on disability. After the transplant, when things settled down, his disability minus his medical costs, he clears $495/yr. Unfortunately our daughter did not survive the emotional and financial drain on our resources. Especially since I was unable to be a bread winner, nurse, mother/father, wife, provide elder care for parents on both sides of the family, cook, housekeeper and all around bottle washer AND still maintain my sanity.
    — I watched a close family friend succumb to insulin shock and lay in the hospital for a week before this young man passed on. Unless you have been through this personally, you do not know what it is like.
    There are worse things than death. If someone is ready to meet their maker by knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt on where they will spend eternity, then let them go in peace, with as little suffering as possible.
    Death can be a huge blessing. I admire the young lady who chose assisted-suicide for not making her family stand by and watch as she slowly, painfully, succumbed to cancer. I also admire this lady for making the decision to allow “nature to take its coarse.” Both are tragic. Both need to be dealt with by loving, supporting, non-judgemental people. AND ALL OF US SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO MAKE THOSE DECISIONS OUT OF THE LAMPLIGHT OF MEDIA HYPE AND HOLIER THAN THOU ATTITUDES.
    The saying, “walk a mile in my shoes” is never truer than in these cases.
    May the Lord Jesus Christ come quickly and put an end to the suffering his people are going through.

    • “I believe this is a decision that is totally personnel and should be kept out of the political, media, religious discussion.” You are certainly entitled to your opinion – just as we are entitled to choose which stories to share here on our blog.
      While you may desire for these stories to be kept out of several arenas, it will remain there as long as 1) people are faced with the vote to make euthanasia legal and therefore a political issue, 2) the media “reports” on what they choose to promote, and 3) religion plays an important role in many peoples’ lives.
      One of the reasons I posted this is because of the world-wide media attention Ms. Maynard received on her decision to end her life (there’s even a Wiki page on her now). Ms. Lovett’s decision has received miniscule coverage in comparison to Ms. Maynard’s. Why is that? Why no promotion of Ms. Lovett’s decision to live her life as she chooses? Why choose the one “HOLIER THAN THOUS ATTITUDES” above another? It demonstrates a bias in the media to promote a specific agenda.
      “Unless you have been through this personally, you do not know what it is like.” I can relate to your stories – as many of us here can, I assume. As we grow older, we face the realities of dealing with a loved one with a terminal illness and/or a loved one that is too ill to recover or dying of old age. But I found inspiration from Ms. Lovett’s story about what your faith can provide during those difficult times.
      Here are some of my personal experiences:
      “I admire the young lady who chose assisted-suicide for not making her family stand by and watch as she slowly, painfully, succumbed to cancer.” Our family members didn’t mind taking care of those succumbing to an illness. Not every day was good and not every day was bad. I admire family members who stood by day and night to help ease the pain of their loved ones, offer them physical and verbal support, and stick with them to the end. That was everyone’s choice.
      “I also admire this lady for making the decision to allow “nature to take its coarse.” In our family, we considered it to be God determining the course, not nature. This is how our religion determines the outcome.
      “Walk a mile my shoes” is very appropriate. Hopefully through our personal experiences, we gain a better understanding of individual’s choices. And we are also offered an avenue to share personal stories and hopefully inspire others in our choice.
      And the discussion of euthanasia is very appropriate. As a Christian and political blog, we aim to promote pro-life issues. That is our choice.

    • So true, and that is the part of her choice that I would struggle coming to terms with if everyone had to die ‘her way’. Especially the part about ‘people that should have died live for years longer’ part. I feel that is a curse, in my instance, not a miracle. I loved my Oma more than I can say, my fondest childhood memories are with her. After Opa died she quickly deteriorated into dementia. She died a decade later than she was projected to, unable to remember who her family was, speak English (her memories were that of when she was a small child back in Germany), or even sit up and feed herself. There was no dignity in her death, it was physically painful for her and ripped holes in the emotional well being of those she loved that have not noticeably begun to heal even now, six years later. I don’t know what she would have chosen, life or death, had the choice been hers, but I wouldn’t wish deteriorating like that on me or my loved ones.

  2. Lizz Lovett is truly an inspiring person, of immense courage and dignity, sharing a crucial part of life with us. We may not choose her way but it is HER way, between her and God, thus we cannot put anything negative on it.
    This is pretty much the position that most Christian Friends [Quakers] would take; I hope I have as much strength as she does when my time comes.

  3. Most of us have a horror of physical suffering. I know I do. But the hive-mind mentality persists. Lizz states the social side of the problem succinctly: The “right” to die becomes the “duty” to die once “death with dignity” becomes law: The refusal to die becomes “undignified,” as it were.
    This thinking is straight out of the mind of Satan!
    I used to think that communism was the worst of all modern ideas. The New World Order will be communistic. (Probably in the Fabian socialist stripe or “flavah.”) But EUGENICS is the absolute worst idea to come down the pike. We’ll all be living in Logan’s Run!
    One sad fact of life tends to leverage hive-mind communism against us, and that is the fact that, in many matters and situations, we cannot have our fair share of control or choice in the situation. If others can control, circumvent or cheat us, they will. But “death with dignity” laws guarantee that horrible outcome, just as the death panels of Obamacare do!
    Lizz Lovett has it right. That is why the eugenicists and Obamaites hate her.
    God Bless this woman. I’ll be praying for her.

  4. Every one has the right to thr own opinion about dying, and i dont need someone to judge what i do, Its none of your dam business.

  5. The example of Christ shows that not all suffering is evil. Offer your suffering to Him as redemptive suffering.


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