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‘The luckiest man alive’ insists raising a child in a ‘throuple’ is the future of parenting

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Dad, mum and mum and their kids

Because parenting and relationships should be all about logistics that make your life easier so you have time to socialize!

From Daily Mail: When a family announces that it is expecting, it is usually two parents that excitedly break the news. However, for Adam Lyons and his two girlfriends, it’s three parents who are getting increasingly excited about their forthcoming bundle of joy.

Two years ago, Adam Lyons, 36, who is from East London, but now lives in Austin, Texas, was dubbed ‘the luckiest man alive’ because of his unusual living arrangements with his two girlfriends Brooke Shedd and Jane Shalakhova.

At the time, Adam and Brooke had son, Dante, two, together but now the ‘throuple’ are expecting again after Jane fell pregnant. 

The threesome – who share a super-kingsize bed – believe the new baby, due in July, will make their family even more complete. Adam, 36, says: ‘It’s so sweet that we all get to parent and raise the kids together. We have talked about it at length and we all consider ourselves parents to the children. ‘

With the kids, our titles are officially “Dad”, “Mum” and “Mum”. For us, three definitely works better than two.’

In fact the threesome believe their unusual arrangement could be the future of relationships and parenting.

Adam, who runs his own business consulting company Psychology Hacker, says: ‘For us, three people works because it enables us to manage daily life so much better.  So many of our friends are in “normal” two-person couple relationships with kids, jobs and all the other typical responsibilities and I see them struggling to juggle their lives. It’s difficult with two people.  But with three parents, we always have the ability for one person to look after the kids.’

‘As a result, we never begrudge each other anything because we all have lots of time. With three people, it’s logistically so much easier to handle all those things – we share out the responsibilities and it fits our sexual preferences too.’

‘When Brooke, Jane and I first came out about our relationship, we had some criticism and certain people said we wouldn’t last.

But we’ve been going for five years now. What we have is not a fling or a phase, we’re a real family with healthy, happy kids. Our son Oliver doesn’t even recognise what is ‘unusual’ about our family.’

‘This should be the future of relationships, where people are able to enjoy love in any way they feel works. Three people and three parents makes so much sense to us.’

Indeed pregnant mother, Jane, 27, says that she never wanted children until she realised how much easier it was with three parents. Jane, who also works with Adam in his business consulting company, explains: ‘When I had boyfriends before, I never wanted or cared about kids. Growing up, I always thought that when you had a baby, you became a slave to your child. You see a lot of parents struggling. But raising Dante with Adam and Brooke and watching him grow up with three parents around – I realise we could do it as a family. With three parents around, it’s so doable.’

With three parents, we can still have a social life, make time for one another and share the parenting tasks so you don’t end up like the typical sleep-deprived mum! With two partners, there’s so much help and I’ll never have to leave my kids with someone I don’t trust.’

Bisexual Brooke, 28, – who also has son, Oliver, 7 from a previous relationship – says: ‘I’m so excited for Jane’s pregnancy – I love talking to her bump. I’ve always wanted four sons so this is a dream come true. ‘I think our good parenting is one of the sexiest things about our relationship. It’s incredible to see them Adam and Jane with the kids and how we share all the responsibilities.’

‘We definitely want a few more kids and I would love to have a wedding to show my commitment to Adam and Jane. Oliver says he would like to get married someday too and he knows three people can be really happy together in a relationship. We’re setting a good example.

Adam, Jane and Brooke all live together on a large plot of land with two separate houses – one of which they use as an office and one of which Brooke uses as a home school where she plans to teach all the trio’s children.

Bisexual Jane says: ‘We love living and working together – the family house is a one-minute walk from our office. Adam and I can have meetings in the office and head back home for lunch with Brooke and the kids. It allows us to spend more time together. I love coming home and getting a kiss from Brooke, Dante and Oliver!

‘My pregnancy was a planned one. We were trying for a baby – it just felt like the right time and parenting together as a threesome is a lot of fun.’

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Expert who throws swingers parties insists EVERY couple would be happier if they abandoned monogamy

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Pleasure Professor Louise Van Der Velde who wants everyone swinging together

Speak for yourself.

From Daily Mail: Fidelity is upheld as the gold standard for a happy marriage. But according to Harley Street relationship counsellor Louise Van Der Velde involving other people in your intimate life could be the key to a healthy relationship.

The 42-year-old widowed mother tells FEMAIL she believes ‘everyone should swing’ to save their long-term relationships. Louise, who is known as the ‘Pleasure Professor’, hosts two-day seminars for ‘rich, good-looking couples’ – often culminating in group sex on plush cushions – in a London hotel for around 70 selected people at a time. ‘If I had my way the whole of society would be swinging together,’ Louise says.

‘We have an image of sex with strangers as sleazy and dirty, but this is about getting back to soul truth, that no one owns anybody else, we don’t own our partners.’

The relationship counsellor, who broadcast her theories during a recent appearance on Micky Flanagan’s show, Thinking Out Loud, adds: ‘It’s about stopping jealousy and replacing fears with love.’

Louise, originally from Harrogate, Yorkshire, has been in open relationships on-and-off since her doctor husband died 13 years ago. The mother-of-two, who has a son, 20, and daughter, 15, splits her time between Camberley, Surrey, and Marbella, where she initially hosted smaller, ‘celebrity attended’ sex parties.

She argues sex with strangers will create a marriage no one would want to leave.  ‘Doing this stops infidelity,’ she says. ‘If you explore your desires together, any fear about your other person cheating goes. After our work together couples often go and play and experience things together. Why on earth would you think of having an affair when you have a relationship like this?

The sex guru invites single women as well as couples to the events, which involve a 70 per cent to 30 per cent ratio of women to men, ‘to ensure it does not become a sausage fest’.

The invites are also based on couples’ desires. ‘Most couples want a threesome with another woman,’ Louise explains.  ‘The people who come are affluent, good looking, professional couples. They are young – I don’t accept anyone over 45, and are mostly around 30 to 45.

Participants, who are also vetted for attractiveness and reasons for attending before being accepted, then embark on 48 hours of tantric touching, phallic meals, emotional workshops and unleashing the ‘kundalini serpent’ of sexual desire.

Louise, who believes monogamy is a ‘lie’ sold to society as a whole, insists her sex parties are not purely about lust. She argues they ‘deepen the connection’ between couples – and successful pairs even leave with a certificate.

‘In the seminar we start off very gently, we look at where people got their beliefs from about why they are monogamous. Mostly it’s a limiting belief. An “I got married so I expected to have sex with one person”, or “it’s what society and marriage say you should do”.

‘I loosen up this belief by going back to very first time they were sold the lie about being monogamous – which can be as early as when they were seven or eight years old.’    

Louise says her own children know about and are comfortable with her work. She explains: ‘They have very much been brought up to be mindful with sex. They are both selective about who they engage with and are well balanced. I have taught them the opposite of what society does, that sex is not taboo.’

The sex guru, who has appeared regularly on This Morning and Lorraine, says her seminars culminate in, optional, sexual experiences in a ‘comfy, cushion-lined, candlelit separate space’.

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