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Tourists shocked by what they see on San Francisco streets

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The streets of San Francisco…

Did nobody bother to Google the city they were about to visit? Before you make a trip to San Francisco, see the following:

From SF Gate: It’s something many San Franciscans see on a daily basis, outside their homes or offices and during their commutes. For better or for worse, locals are used to walking by crime scenes, have seen open injection drug use, and have witnessed mental health episodes firsthand.

But when a tourist lands at SFO, guidebook in hand, that reality can be shocking.

“Is this normal or am I in a ‘bad part of town?’ Just walked past numerous homeless off their faces, screaming and running all over the sidewalk near Twitter HQ and then a murder scene. Wife is scared to leave hotel now,” wrote an Australian Reddit user Wednesday.

That person isn’t alone. On Sunday, another tourist from Canada asked the San Francisco Reddit community, “Why is this city so terrifying?”

“I’d been there for probably less than a day, just wandering around the center, and already seen more than enough poverty and suffering to cause me wanting to leave desperately,” wrote another visitor from London in 2017. “I saw many people talking to themselves, or to things that weren’t there. Even in a Macy’s, and there weren’t any police officers to help them or do anything about it.”

Anyone who has hosted friends or family from out of town may have had to field similar questions.

Just those three Reddit posts garnered more than 650 comments, many of which were helpful suggestions (other neighborhoods to explore, safety tips, and more).

But the city’s own visitors’ bureau is struggling to come up with a good explanation for horrified tourists.

The streets are filthy. There’s trash everywhere. It’s disgusting,” Joe D’Alessandro, president of S.F. Travel told the Chronicle’s Heather Knight in April. “I’ve never seen any other city like this — the homelessness, dirty streets, drug use on the streets, smash-and-grabs.”

“You see things on the streets that are just not humane,” Kevin Carroll, executive director of the Hotel Council of San Francisco, also told Knight. “People come into hotels saying, ‘What is going on out there?’ They’re just shocked. … People say, ‘I love your city, I love your restaurants, but I’ll never come back.'”

DCG

Lenient drug use policies and lax enforcement in the Pacific Northwest are endangering children

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Needle cleanup in Snohomish County, Washington/Herald Net photo

In February, Snohomish County (north of King County – Seattle area) announced that drug users would get a pass if they’re busted with less than 2 grams of any drug. Apparently the county doesn’t have enough prosecutors to take on these cases.

Just before Snohomish County announced this, the King County Prosecutor’s Office announced that they were cutting loose about 1,500 misdemeanor cases from 2017 due to staffing shortages. An anonymous police officer in King County — going under the Reddit handle of “BummedCop” — noted that charges ranging from criminal trespass to theft, vehicle prowls, and possession of stolen property would be dismissed.

Until recently, Snohomish County allowed drug consumption sites at supervised drug facilities. In March, the county council approved an ordinance that permanently bans drug consumption sites. From MyNorthwest.com:

“The permanent ban follows a six-month moratorium on drug consumption sites that county officials passed in September 2017. The council used the time to codify a permanent ban.

“We want to get out ahead of the game and make sure we’re not having these safe injection sites anywhere near Snohomish County,” Councilmember Nate Nehring said in September.”

Meanwhile in King County they are working on providing “safe injection sites” for drug users. After studying the issue for almost a year and a half, county and city officials believe that the need for these sites exists yet have not formally decided on any locations. The task force does suggest six different options ranging from $350,000 to $5 million to start with close to $4 million in annual costs.

Seattle has also considered “safe consumption sites” where people can inject and smoke illegal drugs under medical supervision.

The drug use is so rampant in Snohomish County that at the end of 2017, over ONE MILLION used syringes were collected during the previous six months by a Snohomish County needle exchange program. From Herald Net:

Strayneedles have become a symptom and a symbol of the nationwide opioid crisis. Recovering addicts spent days cleaning nine tons of garbage and thousands of heroin needles from their former home, a patch of woods behind a Home Depot south of Everett.

Robert Smiley stayed in the camp years ago, when he abused alcohol and smoked crack. He dumped a bucket of 7,624 needles onto a tarp Monday, to show how many carpeted the ground days ago.

“All I know is this doesn’t need to be your neighborhood anymore,” Smiley said to an audience of volunteers, as they celebrated the progress of their cleanup at a barbecue Monday.

Smiley, 53, leads the Hand Up Project, a nonprofit that seeks to get people off the streets, into detox and into sober housing. Many of the volunteers are recovering addicts who lived in the camp in the past. Now they want to make things right, in a neighborhood plagued by drugs and related crime.

The city of Everett (in Snohomish County) provides free taxpayer-funded needle clean-up kits to Snohomish County residents and business owners so they can clean up needles found in the community. The kits include a sharps container, puncture proof gloves, safety glasses, tongs, hand sanitizer and simple instructions for safe collection.

And what is the result of lax drug-use policies and non-enforcement? Children are routinely encountering needles in parks/playgrounds/streets throughout Snohomish and King counties.

Last week a toddler was pricked by a dirty needle in an Everett playground.  MyNorthwest.com reports that the babysitter, Dana Smith, heard a scream. “The way he was screaming, he’s never screamed like that,” Smith said. “It was so scary and he was hysterical.”

The babysitter looked through the mulch and found a needle that appeared to be half used and filled with a brown substance. After safely retrieving it, she took the boy to the hospital.

Seattle’s Cal Anderson Park has become notorious for drug use. There are so many instances of children finding needles that a mom created a “See a Needle” web site to teach parents/kids/teachers what to do if they encounter needles.

In downtown Seattle, a mom took her three-year-old to see the Hello Kitty exhibit at the Experience Music Project (EMP). She turned her back for a second and the child had a syringe in her hand.

Syringes have been found in Les Grove Park in Auburn (King County), which has become a haven for homeless and drugs. A mom says she’s found dozens of used needles inside the park, including one that was just finger deep in a sandbox.

A public path near a Seattle elementary school had to be closed due to people repeatedly finding needles there. The public path is used by people to camp there and inject drugs. According to an elementary school PTA member, along with finding used needles, condoms and human waste is also a common site.

Needles are also prevalent on the east side of King County. Bothell Police tweeted about what to do when you encounter a needle in a park. Their most recent tweet about needles on April 24:

Heading to a park/playground to enjoy the sun? Unfortunately that means some kids may come across discarded needles. What should you do if you see a discarded needle or drug paraphernalia? Thanks to Daisy’s wonderful artwork, we have an idea. – Don’t Touch – Mark it – Call 911.”

I understand that the opioid crisis is a contributing factor to children finding needles. King County does as well and in January they filed a lawsuit against Purdue Pharma, the company behind the painkiller OxyContin, blaming the company of fueling the opioid epidemic there.  The suit also alleges “the opioid epidemic has contributed significantly to the homelessness crisis in King County.”

More about the lawsuit from KIRO TV:

The lawsuit descries describes deplorable conditions in parks, including syringes found daily this summer on a children’s play area at a park in White Center, used needles daily on ball fields, and homeless encampments filled with human waste that destroyed years of environmental restoration work.

The court filing provides the most vivid details released to the public about the extent of the problem. 

But even if King County wins the suit, a financial gain from the lawsuit is likely years away – and it’s not clear how county officials can adequately address the exploding problem of homelessness, biohazardous waste and syringes that often create a public safety risk. 

The lawsuit states that tens of thousands of needles still litter local parks, putting staff at risk and requiring them to provide reduced services to park-goers to avoid the chance of injury. Sheriff’s deputies and Metro employees also are repeatedly exposed to dangers, and Metro has collected more than 650 pounds of the roughly pen-size needles since 2013.”

The Pacific Northwest/Seattle area has been trying to address the opioid and homeless crisis for many, many years. And they have spent millions and millions of dollars.

Yet it is NEVER enough taxpayer dollars.

When you allow the homeless and junkies to freely shoot up with no criminal consequences you end up with discarded needles. Needles that become a public safety issue.

What do you want to bet another tax will be the next solution?

DCG

Normalizing cannibalism via jokes and pop culture

For some years now, efforts are underway to “normalize,” i.e., legitimate pedophilia. See:

One way to normalize something that is illegal/immoral is to joke about it.

That is why Gretchen Sisson, Ph.D., a “feminist” sociologist at the University of California – San Francisco research group Advancing New Standards in Reproductive Health (ANSIRH), wants TV shows to joke about abortion.

Toni Airaksinen reports for Campus Reform, Jan. 2, 2018, that in an article in the new issue of the journal Feminist Media Studies, Sisson proposes that television shows should use “abortion plotlines” as a valuable tool to help “destigmatize” abortion:

The purpose of including an abortion plotline is simply to make jokes about abortion, recognizing that such satire is valuable for some people as both a means and an end. This should not be surprising: comedy has often been used as a subversive way of challenging predominant social structures.

Now we know the hidden agenda for Senator Al Franken’s ‘joke’ about the anal rape of babies, as if that is something funny.

Knowing all that — that a way to normalize something is to joke about it — we should be alarmed by “jokes” being made about cannibalism.

(1) John McAfee

John McAfee, 72, a libertarian, is the founder of McAfee Associates that created the first commercial antivirus software.

On January 9, 2018, in a series of tweets, McAfee “joked” about being a cannibal.

Another tweeter CryptoSpider asks McAfee, “Chronologically incorrect? Dont u mean categorically incorrect? Or did you eat small children at some point then stopped?”. To which McAfee replied:

“In the early 80’s i used to dabble a bit in child eating. As I got older they no longer agreed with me.”

” And to be honest, i still slip from time to time and devour a third or fourth grader.”

Asked “so are you upset about the eating small children part or the chronological order part?,” McAfee replied:

“The Chronological order part of course. I stopped the practice years ago.”

(2) Steve Huffman

Steve Huffman, 34, is the co-founder, CEO and forum administrator of the content-sharing and chat website Reddit, where he uses the alias Spez.

Huffman/Spez banned Pizzagate as a subject for a sub-Reddit thread, but not cannibalism. The sub-Reddit for cannibalism /r/Cannibals is titled “We Eat People“; the moderator was Spez but now is someone called FuzzyNavel, who is suspected to be Huffman under a different alias, but denies it.

Someone on the 4chan message board compiled a composite of comments (see below) made by Steve Huffman “Spez” and “FuzzyNavel” on cannibalism:

Spez: “Shit. No skeletons in my closet, but a few in the fridge.”

FuzzyNavel: “The night I learned the truth and consumed human flesh. With BBQ sauce, of course.”

There is even an entire sub-Reddit called “Spez is a Cannibal“.

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Another way to normalize cannibalism is to make it a theme in pop culture via:

(1) Zombie movies and TV shows; the Twilight movies that romanticize vampires:

And let’s not forget Reza Aslan, the CNN host who dined on human brain with cannibals. Aslan’s series was called “Believer”:

Even the game show Jeopardy had to make a point that a contestant — proofreader/editor Flora Leen — on a recent episode, broadcast on January 10, 2018, had dined with cannibals.

(2) Cannibalism as art:

  • Marina Abramovic’s “spirit cooking,” in which menstrual blood, breast milk, urine and sperm are mixed to create a “painting”.
  • The 2011 annual gala of the Museum of Contemporary Art’s simulated cannibalism, wherein Hollywood stars, such as Pamela Anderson, consumed pieces of cakes molded into life-size images of Marina Abramovic and pop singer Debbie Harry.

(3) Pop singer Katy Perry, who is on video saying she had sold to the Devil, glamorizes cannibalism in a music video of her 2017 single, “Bon Appétit”. The music video is a macabre step-by-step cooking recipe featuring the singer as the main course, ending with Perry about to dine from a plate full of human body parts.

See also:

H/t Voat

~Eowyn

Fake news CNN unlawfully threatens maker of Trump wrestling GIF; Alt-Media vows revenge

On Sunday morning, July 2, 2017, President Trump tweeted a photoshopped GIF of him downing a wrestler whose face bore the CNN logo.

That’s CNN — the peddler of fake news, whose producer recently admitted on Project Veritas’ hidden camera that the network’s Trump-Russia story is ‘bullshit’ fake news, and contemptuously describes American voters as “Stupid as shit”.

Thin-skinned CNN went on the war path to track down the source of the Trump wrestler GIF to a Reddit poster, rumored to be a 15-year-old teen, who calls himself HanAssholeSolo (HAS). The network’s investigative KFile team then uncovered HAS’s real identity by using identifying information of key biographical details HAS had posted on Reddit and a Facebook search.

On July 4, two days after Trump’s tweet, CNN published an article written by Andrew Kaczynski, the head of CNN’s KFile team — “How CNN found the Reddit user behind the Trump wrestling GIF“.  In the article, Kaczynski describes how his KFile team uncovered HAS’s real identity and contacted HAS, after which HAS publicly apologized for the GIF and confirmed his identity.

Kaczynski writes:

“In the interview [with CNN], ‘HanA**holeSolo’ sounded nervous about his identity being revealed and asked to not be named out of fear for his personal safety and for the public embarrassment it would bring to him and his family.”

Despite the fact that HAS apologized to CNN for the GIF — which HAS is under no obligation to do, as he was simply exercising his Constitutional First Amendment right of free speech when he made the GIF — CNN (via Kacsynski) still threatens to dox (publicly reveal the identity) HAS if he does not behave properly in the future:

“CNN is not publishing ‘HanA**holeSolo’s’ name because he is a private citizen who has issued an extensive statement of apology, showed his remorse by saying he has taken down all his offending posts, and because he said he is not going to repeat this ugly behavior on social media again. In addition, he said his statement could serve as an example to others not to do the same.

CNN reserves the right to publish his identity should any of that change.

Kacsynski also claims that HansAssholeSolo is not 15 but a middle-aged man — which may or may not be true, as there is no way for us to verify the claim, unless HAS actually comes forth and reveals his age and identity.

Kacsynski’s threat was followed by an official statement from CNN:

As WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange points out, CNN and Kacsynski’s standing threat to dox HansAssholeSolo if he ever so much as make fun of CNN again is illegal. According to New York Penal Law §135.60, CNN’s threat is coercion in the second degree and a class A misdemeanor. PEN §135.60 states:

A person is guilty of coercion in the second degree when he or she compels or induces a person to engage in conduct which the latter has a legal right to abstain from engaging in, or to abstain from engaging in conduct in which he or she has a legal right to engage, or compels or induces a person to join a group, organization or criminal enterprise which such latter person has a right to abstain from joining, by means of instilling in him or her a fear that, if the demand is not complied with, the actor or another will:

1. Cause physical injury to a person;  or

2. Cause damage to property;  or

3. Engage in other conduct constituting a crime;  or

4. Accuse some person of a crime or cause criminal charges to be instituted against him or her;  or

5. Expose a secret or publicize an asserted fact, whether true or false, tending to subject some person to hatred, contempt or ridicule;  or

6. Cause a strike, boycott or other collective labor group action injurious to some person’s business;  except that such a threat shall not be deemed coercive when the act or omission compelled is for the benefit of the group in whose interest the actor purports to act;  or

7. Testify or provide information or withhold testimony or information with respect to another’s legal claim or defense;  or

8. Use or abuse his or her position as a public servant by performing some act within or related to his or her official duties, or by failing or refusing to perform an official duty, in such manner as to affect some person adversely;  or

9. Perform any other act which would not in itself materially benefit the actor but which is calculated to harm another person materially with respect to his or her health, safety, business, calling, career, financial condition, reputation or personal relationships.

The backlash against CNN-Kacsynski’s threat is swift and furious:

(1) On July 4, 2017, the chat forum 4chan‘s very resourceful /pol/ politically incorrect section declared war on CNN, vowing to utterly destroy the network. Here’s their “Declaration of War on CNN“:

“Sirs and madams,

Herein contained in this post is /pol/’s formal declaration of war against CNN. Your news agency has for years produced propaganda designed to brainwash the public at large into your sick worldview, and has non-stop endlessly harassed the good men and women of our website and in the right-wing at large. Your latest threat to dox an individual for creating a harmless meme is just another example of your malignant nature and the urgent need to shut your organization down for good.

That is why the ascendant nation of /pol/ has unanimously agreed that all of our resources will be put to the goal of ending your reign of terror. Do not take this lightly. We have the best cyber hackers in the world. We have access to memes that will forever damage the psyche of your company and its employees. We could bring you to heel with zero casualties if we so wanted. As such, we are offering you a chance to surrender now by our terms.

-Total surrender/ dismantlement of CNN and its sister companies and investigative organs
-Criminal prosecution by an impartial tribunal to accordingly sentence everyone involved in CNN and its crimes
-Immediate retraction of all hit pieces and false stories against the President of the United States along with an apology
-Cede all of CNN’s current economic and fiduciary assets to a private fund organized by representatives of /pol/ to be used for the development of new, alternative media organizations which will replace CNN
-Well-written apology to the person CNN threatened to dox

You have one week from the time of this posting. Our people will make certain that you see this message. Remember, we are anonymous. We do not forgive and we do not forget.

We’re waiting.”

And as promised, 4chan and other netcitizens delivered and will continue to exact retribution against CNN.

(2) On July 4, a 4chan poster discovered that Andrew Kaczynski follows the Church of Satan on Twitter. Is Kaczynski, like John Podesta, also a spirit-cooker?

(3) On July 5, netcitizens gave Andrew Kaczynski a taste of his own “dox” medicine by posting Kaczynski’s personal info. to pastebin and here.

(4) Someone did the research and discovered CNN is an All Jew Network, which defies the law of probability (click image below to enlarge):

(5) Reporting for the liberal Daily Caller on July 5, 2017, Betsy Rothstein claims that CNN staff have had their home addresses published and received anti-Semitic threats and accusations:

“Several anchors and reporters at CNN have had their home addresses published and have received threats of rape and other violence in the wake of a story published by Andrew Kaczynski . . . . Anti-network trolls are encouraging viewers to wrongly accuse CNN staffers of pedophilia and child pornography. There is also ‘tons of anti-Semitism.’”

Indeed, a 4chan netcitizen posted this list of home addresses of six CNN hosts and correspondents.

(6) Meme-makers got busy and created even more Trump vs. CNN pictures and GIFs. If the network had a hissy fit over the Trump wrestling GIF, this compilation is sure to give CNN honchos a stroke:

In this war, my bets are on 4chan.

Bring out the popcorn!

See also:

H/t Jim Stone and FOTM‘s MCA, MomOfIV, and Will Shanley.

UPDATE:

CNN’s ratings are plummeting. From Daily Caller, July 6, 2017:

CNN has fallen to #13 in cable TV rankings, according to weekly numbers posted on Thursday by TV Newser.

The ratings slide comes as the network has come under heavy scrutiny for a variety of journalistic missteps, including the retraction of an article alleging that a Trump associate had illicit Russian business ties.

Fox News and MSNBC are listed as first and second, respectively, in the cable rankings, which measured average audience sizes for the period between June 26 and July 2. Fox News drew an audience of around 1.82 million while MSNBC drew an audience of 1.34 million. CNN had only 711,000 viewers on an average day during the measurement period.

To give some perspective to CNN’s average daily rating of 711,000 viewers:

Fellowship of the Minds, this humble little-known blog with a handful of unpaid volunteer writers, had its best day on August 21, 2014, when we got a phenomenal 355,340 unique views. That’s half of the 711,000 average daily rating of international cable TV and corporate giant CNN, whose anchors are paid $millions.

~Eowyn

Seattle’s ‘X Party’ candidate would give voters total access

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Ryan Asbert

I would not be surprised if Ryan became the next face of Seattle politics.

From MyNorthwest.com: There’s a new political party in Seattle. It’s not Socialist. It’s not Democratic, or Republican. In fact, it’s you. It’s the X Party.

The X Party is essentially Seattle voters at large. The idea is that an application will be available to all Seattle voters who will log in and make their voice heard on any legislation. The elected official will vote as the people demand.

That elected official, in this case, will be Ryan Asbert. He announced his intention to run for Seattle’s 8th District on Reddit recently. “I am going to build a web application that anybody in Seattle can log into and use to vote on any upcoming legislation,” Asbert told KIRO Radio’s Jason and Burns Show. “I’ll basically be digitizing my seat, putting it up on the web and letting the citizens partake in the process.”

“Beyond that, we got a number of additional features we plan to drop on top of that,” he added. “The ability to propose legislation, discuss legislation, even post video analysis.”

The 8th District seat is currently occupied by Tim Burgess who will not be running for re-election. It is a citywide seat, representing all Seattleites. It’s why Asbert wanted to run the X Party for the seat, instead of limiting it to one region in the city.

There is a sub reddit page for the party and a website for The X Party.

The X Party

In current democracy, a resident could ideally contact their elected official and make their voice heard. But with the X Party, Asbert wants to take things to the next level, adding extra transparency. “The idea is that everything needs to be as transparent as possible,” Asbert said. “So everything we have access to, you have access to.”

Asbert notes that there are similar apps out there, such as Capitol Bells. But those are merely recommendations. His software system and candidacy will only work on the premise that he votes as the majority of Seattleites instruct.

Part of the digital democracy system Asbert has in mind is a board that monitors the software system. That executive board of the party will be elected, as well, by users.

And in the end, what most Seattle voters say yea or nay to, that’s the way Asbert will go. “It’s not my job to impose my beliefs on my constituency,” he said.

But there are some issues that will have to be worked out, Asbert notes. “There are some blind spots,” he said. “For instance, there has been some concern about some vote brigading. What if all of a sudden a bunch of people sign up and pass a bill to build a Death Star?”

The solution for Asbert as an elected official will, therefore, be to educate the public. Such as Youtube videos explaining the full extent of issues and legislation, and interaction via the app.

The next round of council elections will be next November.

DCG

MAGA: Bestialists in retreat after Trump win

Three years ago, I wrote a post, “Now it’s dog rape. When Obama became president, did a door to Hell open?,” pointing out that since Obama was elected president in 2008, evil no longer hides in the shadows but is in your face and out in the open.

Among the many signs is one that you probably don’t know:

Beastialists — people who advocate and engage in sex with animals — are now so emboldened that they openly discuss their perversities on Internet websites, such as Reddit, a popular online chat website. Another site, beastforum.com, has more than one million members as of March 2012

They don’t call themselves beastialists, preferring the euphemisms of zoophile instead of beastialist, and zoophilia instead of beastiality. They’re just animals lovers! They “love” animals so much, they screw them — which, at a minimum, is a form of animal abuse. I still don’t get why PETA, the American Humane Society and the ASPCA aren’t up in arms against these beastialist monsters.

Donald Trump ran and won the presidency with the rallying cry, “Make America Great Again (MAGA)”.

That is already happening because the beastialists are nervous.

A beastialist named peacheslala97 wrote on Reddit that with Trump as President, “we’re in trouble” because “we will come up on the radar” and “we will never get our rights now” as “Trump will never help us,” whereas Hillary “could’ve been swayed aka bribed”.

beastialists-fear-trumpSome responses to peacheslala97 [edited for spelling and grammar]:

thelongestusernameee: “The worst that can happen is that we do what we’re all used to and go back to hiding.”

Swibblestein: “America will get another Democrat in office eventually, and the lost ground will be made back up…. the fact that we have a Republican Senate and House, and will soon have a Republican Supreme Court… That, I do believe, is more worrisome with respect to LGBT rights.”

peacheslala97: “It’s not primarily him I’m worried about it’s his insane base.”

Edog91: “I doubt anything will change for us and let’s say for some reason we make it high on the people hate list. Just go off line….”

daJacket: “Honestly I doubt anything will happen. You all are still largely underground and away from the public eye. It will take a couple decades before liberals embrace sexual mores that include acceptance of bestiality. But hang in there; assuming you all are young Millennials, acceptance will happen in your lifetime.

MyBigK9: “I’m more terrified of new technologies that include brain reading,(visual interpretations of the brain’s active thoughts) than I am of Trump and his huge supporters. Could you imagine what kind of world it will be to not be able to have sick thoughts as we all do? That’s when I and many others will be terrified.”

St. Michael

Recall that in my Nov. 6 “Sunday Devotional: A Petition to the Father,” I had called the 2016 presidential election a battle against evil.

We dodged so many bullets on November 8, I am now convinced Heaven’s Army, led by St. Michael, was fighting shoulder-to-shoulder with us.

See also:

H/t FOTM reader Laura R.

~Eowyn

‘I hate my life now’: Parents reveal why they REGRET having children

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From Daily Mail: Mothers have been taking to social media to reveal what it really feels like to regret having children. Posting anonymously on sites like Facebook, Reddit and Quora, the disgruntled women have made startling confessions describing parenthood as ‘drudgery and monotony’.

Citing reasons from sleep deprivation to financial security – and ‘not liking kids’ – some go as far as confessing they wish their offspring had never been born.

Many have taken to the Facebook page I Regret Having Children in recent months. The group, started in July 2012 by a mother known only as ‘R’, has some 3,200 members and serves as a platform for parents to let off steam without being identified.

One anonymous member told how she was still feeling ‘intense regret’ three months after giving birth to her first child. ‘We had a great relationship before the baby, and I always felt like we could have continued the way we were,’ she said, adding that she had ‘never wanted’ a child but her husband had persuaded her. ‘A few days after having the baby I felt intense regret, and it hasn’t gone away,’ she explained.

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‘I just hate my life now, the sleep deprivation, the drudgery, the monotony, and I feel so guilty and ashamed for feeling this way. It’s not my baby’s fault, and he deserves a good mother who wants him. I am needing advice on how to deal with these feelings.’

One 30-year-old father-of-two said he felt he was ‘slipping away from everyone and everything I used to love doing’ as none of his friends were parents. ‘I made the children it’s my job to look after them and i will until the day I die,’ he wrote. ‘But I can’t can’t get the feeling out of my head that my life’s missing… Any men feel the same ?’

A heart-wrenching confession came from the mother to a two-year-old whose lack of sleep had forced her mother to miss work – before suffering a panic attack and a ‘meltdown’ where she threatened to leave her husband. ‘I do not know what to do,’ she admitted. Even when she goes back to sleep, my nerves are so shot that I lie awake and anger consumes my soul.’

The woman added: ‘I hit her yesterday and feel so guilty. I wish I never had her, she takes and takes and we are empty. We have tried letting her cry, sleeping next to her, even put a lock on her room so she would not get out. She still wakes us up.’

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One woman told how she had uprooted and moved from Venezuela to the US to be with her now-husband – who was now threatening to divorce her if she didn’t give him ‘at least two kids’. She wrote: ‘I love him so much but I love myself too much to betray my life to give it to a child.’

One of the few men to comment on the page told how he had found himself with two children he never wanted and was in the process of divorcing his wife.

In a brutally honest post, he wrote: ‘I really don’t like kids and I hate having them during my weekends. I have lost my life completely, I cannot find another woman because of my baggage and the child maintenance is crippling me financially.’ He begged fellow parents for ‘coping strategies’.

A mother-of-two told of her ‘big regrets’ after ‘losing her freedom’ when she had children. The former air hostess added: ‘My mum told me not to get married and not to have kids (…) She’s right. I should have listened to her.’

Another mum spoke of the ‘pure horror’ she felt when she realised that she ‘loved this baby so much (she) would not be able to leave it ever’ – an ordeal that led to depression and, eventually, anxiety and panic attacks.

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Other parents turned to Reddit for advice, with jerkstore13 making the startling admission that she ‘hadn’t slept past 6 in years’. She added: ‘I’m stuck in a place I don’t want to live in.’

Camelican said that parenting had been ‘relentlessly exhausting’, leading her to believe that she ‘wasn’t ready to stop being selfish’. She wrote: ‘I feel like having a kid closed off a lot of possibilities for me, definitely killed any semblance of spontaneity in my life.’

A mother-of-three said she ‘quite frequently’ wished she had never become a parent at all. She wrote: ‘I don’t stand a chance at doing anything significant with my life other than saying hey i raised 3 more humans.  ‘Your welcome. What an accomplishment (sic.).’

DCG