- “Has a grandiose sense of self-importance.
- Requires excessive admiration.
- Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with her expectations.
- Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings & needs of others.
- Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.”
These are among the traits of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), according to the American Psychological Association’s Diagnostic Statistical Manual IV.
Narcissism is excessive self-love. At the core of the NPD syndrome is the construction of a false self as a way to cope with the external world so as to compensate for the individual’s feelings of insecurity and uncertain self-identity. Like its namesake, the mythic Narcissus who is in love with his reflection in water, the self that the narcissist loves is not his real self, but a false self that is grandiose, perfect, and superior.
Being contrived, the grandiose false self must be vigilantly protected from being pierced by reality. That is why the narcissist reacts to any perceived criticism, no matter how minor or trivial, with a feigned cool indifference or with rage and humiliation. The narcissist simply will not listen to or countenance criticism.
The extraordinary photo below of the President of the United States bickering with the Governor of Arizona was snapped by a pool reporter yesterday in Phoenix airport.
Here’s the “pool report” from Drudge:
OBAMA HAS HEATED ARGUMENT WITH AZ GOV
Wed Jan 25 2012 18:33:56 ET
President Obama arrived in Phoenix at 3:15 pm local time, finding the chilly weather of Iowa giving way to sunny skies and temperatures in the high 60s.
He stepped off Air Force One at 3:28 pm and was greeted by Gov. Jan Brewer. She handed him a handwritten letter in an envelope and they spoke intensely for a few minutes. At one point, she pointed her finger at him.
Afterwards, your pooler spoke with the governor.
“He was a little disturbed about my book, Scorpions for Breakfast. I said to him that I have all the respect in the world for the office of the president. The book is what the book is. I asked him if he read the book. He said he read the excerpt. So.”
Asked what aspect of the book disturbed him, Brewer said: “That he didn’t feel that I had treated him cordially. I said I was sorry he felt that way but I didn’t get my sentence finished. Anyway, we’re glad he’s here. I’ll regroup.”
On the letter, she said it was personal letter asking him to sit down with her to discuss the “Arizona comeback.” She said she “reiterated an invitation that I’ve extended to him before with regards to coming to Arizona and going to the border with me.” She said she would take him to lunch. “We’ve had a remarkable comeback here and I want to share that with him.”
She said the president brought up the book.
“I thought we probably would’ve talked about the things that were important to him and important to me, helping one another. Our country is upside down. Arizona was upside down. But we have turned it around. I know again that he loves this country and I love this country.”
It was clear from the moment they greeted one another that this would not be a run-of-the-mill encounter between the president and a local official. At one point, she was pointing her finger at him and at another, they were talking at the same time, seemingly over each other. He appeared to walk away from her while they were still talking, and she confirmed that by saying she didn’t finish her sentence.
When Brewer spoke with your pooler, the AP and an NBC producer for several minutes afterwards, she appeared a bit flustered and taken aback by the conversation. Asked if she was, that’s when Brewer said, “I’ll regroup.”
Wanna get your copy of the book that so upsets The Narcissist? Here’s Governor Brewer’s Scorpions for Breakfast, on Amazon!