Gary Gibson: “Normal, everyday person” attracted to young girls.
Just because he doesn’t “act” on his urges doesn’t make him normal.
From Daily Mail: A self-described ‘virtuous pedophile’ who admits to being sexually attracted to girls as young as six has spoken about how he lives with his urges – and his plans to help other people cope with theirs.
Gary Gibson, 65, of Oregon, has set up a non-profit organisation – the Association for Sexual Abuse Prevention – to help people like him who choose not to offend. The Christian ex-teacher, whose family has a history of incestual child abuse, is one of 1,800 members of an online forum for non-offending pedophiles.
He detailed some of his alleged family history in a series of online videos.
‘My grandfather sexually abused my mother and I think at least one of his sisters, and my father’s woman was known on the streets to be one that invited the little boys into her house and did things with them,’ he said in a video published last month. ‘So, I think, she is a pedophile. I know for a fact my father sexually abused several of my sisters – nearly all of them.’
‘When I was six, my two older sisters taught me to play “go to sleep”. My understanding was I was to get them to take their panties off and get them ready to sleep. I don’t think it was abuse, but it left me with the impression that little girls want to be touched.
‘When I was about 12, I spent a summer with my cousins and there was some sexual games that went on there… both of these girls were five years younger. I was 12, I think one of them was seven and one of them was five. I knew that it was wrong, but frankly in the fifties, every male I knew was sexually attracted to children and little girls.’
In the speech, he then questioned whether pedophilia was something that could be passed down among a family, before saying he never considered himself to be one throughout most of his adult life. ‘I had never called myself a pedophile, but for more than 50 years I have been sexually attracted to little girls. I choose not to act on it,’ he said.
‘I knew I was attracted to little girls, I was always a little close, maybe I hugged them too tight, or did some things I shouldn’t have done, but I never penetrated a child, never – what I would call – had sex with a child. I choose not to do that, but I struggle with it.’
His struggles intensified when his first marriage broke down in the nineties, and he decided to ‘spend some time out in the South Pacific’, where he said there were ‘a lot of little girls running around naked’.
After a couple of years he returned home, and met British nurse Tabitha Abel – woman who would become his wife – through a Christian singles dating site in 2004. They married in 2005. Eventually, they built a log cabin in Oregon, which included rooms for their grandchildren.
But he was still dogged by his desires. ‘The first time I remember changing my daughter’s diaper I thought, “Am I going to touch her” or something, but I made the decision right there that was not going to happen,’ he said in the video, before explaining how he and his wife chose to adopt foster children because their grandchildren did not visit enough.
Gibson says the children eventually moved on for ‘other reasons’, however a 10-year-old girl who had lived with him and Abel developed what he called ‘false memories’.
‘Now you tell me, I mean society says children never lie about sexual abuse. But here the Oregon State Police show up at our door one day and say, “Do you know why I’m here?”‘ the 65-year-old said. ‘They proceeded to tell me this girl disclosed that I lay on the bed naked with her. I said that never happened, and then they said: “Well, she said you put your penis inside of her.” I said that never happened, and they asked me to do a polygraph.
‘So I contacted a lawyer, this was like two days before Christmas 2010, the attorney said don’t do the polygraph.’ He said it was that brush with the police that forced him to ‘come out’ to his wife. ‘I told her I didn’t do it, but this is where I’m at… I’m attracted to kids,’ he said.
During a recent interview, Gibson explained why he is attracted to young girls – but not young boys or teenagers. The ‘comfortably out’ pedophile, whose wife is a nurse, said he is normally not aroused by teenage girls and does not have any desire for young boys. ‘When they pass 12 they tend to get into themselves, start to make themselves look older, and I like things natural – so there we are,’ he told The Sun in the UK.
‘When they start wearing lipstick and stuff like that I don’t find it very appealing.’ Despite his attractions, Gibson added he is ‘a normal everyday person’.
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