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‘The luckiest man alive’ insists raising a child in a ‘throuple’ is the future of parenting

throuple from england

Dad, mum and mum and their kids

Because parenting and relationships should be all about logistics that make your life easier so you have time to socialize!

From Daily Mail: When a family announces that it is expecting, it is usually two parents that excitedly break the news. However, for Adam Lyons and his two girlfriends, it’s three parents who are getting increasingly excited about their forthcoming bundle of joy.

Two years ago, Adam Lyons, 36, who is from East London, but now lives in Austin, Texas, was dubbed ‘the luckiest man alive’ because of his unusual living arrangements with his two girlfriends Brooke Shedd and Jane Shalakhova.

At the time, Adam and Brooke had son, Dante, two, together but now the ‘throuple’ are expecting again after Jane fell pregnant. 

The threesome – who share a super-kingsize bed – believe the new baby, due in July, will make their family even more complete. Adam, 36, says: ‘It’s so sweet that we all get to parent and raise the kids together. We have talked about it at length and we all consider ourselves parents to the children. ‘

With the kids, our titles are officially “Dad”, “Mum” and “Mum”. For us, three definitely works better than two.’

In fact the threesome believe their unusual arrangement could be the future of relationships and parenting.

Adam, who runs his own business consulting company Psychology Hacker, says: ‘For us, three people works because it enables us to manage daily life so much better.  So many of our friends are in “normal” two-person couple relationships with kids, jobs and all the other typical responsibilities and I see them struggling to juggle their lives. It’s difficult with two people.  But with three parents, we always have the ability for one person to look after the kids.’

‘As a result, we never begrudge each other anything because we all have lots of time. With three people, it’s logistically so much easier to handle all those things – we share out the responsibilities and it fits our sexual preferences too.’

‘When Brooke, Jane and I first came out about our relationship, we had some criticism and certain people said we wouldn’t last.

But we’ve been going for five years now. What we have is not a fling or a phase, we’re a real family with healthy, happy kids. Our son Oliver doesn’t even recognise what is ‘unusual’ about our family.’

‘This should be the future of relationships, where people are able to enjoy love in any way they feel works. Three people and three parents makes so much sense to us.’

Indeed pregnant mother, Jane, 27, says that she never wanted children until she realised how much easier it was with three parents. Jane, who also works with Adam in his business consulting company, explains: ‘When I had boyfriends before, I never wanted or cared about kids. Growing up, I always thought that when you had a baby, you became a slave to your child. You see a lot of parents struggling. But raising Dante with Adam and Brooke and watching him grow up with three parents around – I realise we could do it as a family. With three parents around, it’s so doable.’

With three parents, we can still have a social life, make time for one another and share the parenting tasks so you don’t end up like the typical sleep-deprived mum! With two partners, there’s so much help and I’ll never have to leave my kids with someone I don’t trust.’

Bisexual Brooke, 28, – who also has son, Oliver, 7 from a previous relationship – says: ‘I’m so excited for Jane’s pregnancy – I love talking to her bump. I’ve always wanted four sons so this is a dream come true. ‘I think our good parenting is one of the sexiest things about our relationship. It’s incredible to see them Adam and Jane with the kids and how we share all the responsibilities.’

‘We definitely want a few more kids and I would love to have a wedding to show my commitment to Adam and Jane. Oliver says he would like to get married someday too and he knows three people can be really happy together in a relationship. We’re setting a good example.

Adam, Jane and Brooke all live together on a large plot of land with two separate houses – one of which they use as an office and one of which Brooke uses as a home school where she plans to teach all the trio’s children.

Bisexual Jane says: ‘We love living and working together – the family house is a one-minute walk from our office. Adam and I can have meetings in the office and head back home for lunch with Brooke and the kids. It allows us to spend more time together. I love coming home and getting a kiss from Brooke, Dante and Oliver!

‘My pregnancy was a planned one. We were trying for a baby – it just felt like the right time and parenting together as a threesome is a lot of fun.’

Read the rest of the story here.

DCG

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Marijuana Makes Me a Better Mom

stoned mom

Cosmopolitan: The first time I smoked marijuana and tried to function while stoned was on 4/20 my freshman year of high school. It was a school tradition — everyone knew about “The High,” when kids disappeared to get baked and came back to the school’s food festival and jazz concert. It also happened to be my 15th birthday. During the afternoon’s classes, a teacher glared at me when I failed to answer a question. I knew she knew I was stoned, and I froze. I got nauseated. I had to leave the room. I had to leave the school. I spent the rest of the day on the lawn, confused and not at all happy to be high.

Eleven years later, I was home alone with my 1-year-old twins. I was exhausted. One daughter was crying, and I didn’t know why. The other kept laughing, which for some reason made it worse. For the first time since becoming pregnant, for the first time in years, I opened up my stash box and hid in the bathroom to smoke a little pot. Two puffs was all it took, all it had ever taken, to get me as high as I like to be.

When I went back to change my daughters’ diapers, something was different. I was different. I had always found that marijuana increased my ability to empathize, but when interacting with my completely nonjudgmental babies, I found that this empathy helped me. When my daughter whined, I understood implicitly she was uncomfortable in her diaper. I stripped her of her clothes, and she started smiling at once. Normally, I’d have put her back in a new diaper, worrying about pee on the floor. But a bit high, I didn’t care. It was urine. I cleaned urine all the time. So what if she pees? She’s happy! It’s a hardwood floor, and I have a WetJet!

I realized I was actually sort of a better parent stoned.

I avoid relying on marijuana. I get paranoid interacting with other adults if I’ve smoked. I won’t drive. But if I’m alone with the kids for the day, I’ll indulge. With marijuana, I have more patience. I’m slower to get angry or frustrated, because I understand their frustrations. I am able to see the world through their eyes, to remember how hard it is to be a preschooler or toddler, how things that seem obvious to me aren’t yet known to them. We all have a better day.

Marijuana isn’t legal where I live, but it is somewhat decriminalized. Our mayor recently passed an initiative that called for police and courts to dismiss low-level drug charges, so if I’m caught with the limited amount of marijuana it takes to get me high once in a while, I know I’ll be OK. I don’t smoke in front of the kids, and I don’t intend to in the future. When they’re adults, they can make their own choices about marijuana, but I probably won’t smoke with them. There are very few adults I’m comfortable being high around, and I would be surprised if my kids made the list.

Pot is known to be an effective treatment for anxiety. I, like countless other people who find themselves in the role of caregivers for miniature versions of themselves, get stressed out by my kids. Genuine, honest-to-God, parenthood-induced anxiety is a real thing. In my case, marijuana is my anti-anxiety drug of choice. It doesn’t knock me out the way Xanax did. It doesn’t have weird side effects or cause addiction. It’s just something I can turn to on a really hard day. When my kids are bickering for the 15th time in as many minutes, I can disappear for 30 seconds, come back a bit high, and mediate calmly — with a smile, no less.

I say yes to more requests for childhood fun. To baking cookies, craft projects, trips to the park, board games, fashion shows … any of the things that under normal circumstances make my shoulders tense up as I contemplate inevitable messes and tantrums. When I’m a little stoned, there are no fights. My catchphrase goes from, “Thirty-second time out for everyone,” to, “Let’s all take a deep breath and count to four.”

I have three children, and sometimes I smoke marijuana so I can be a better parent to them, because they deserve my best. And in my book, anything you can do that makes you a better parent is good parenting.

DCG

5 Yr Old’s First Job. Heart-warming!

Here’s a truly heartwarming story about the bond formed between a little 5-year-old girl and some construction workers which will make you believe that we all can make a difference when we give a child the gift of our time.

A young family moved into a house, next to a vacant lot. One day, a Construction crew turned up to start building a house on the empty lot.

The young family’s 5-year-old daughter naturally took an interest in all the activity going on next door and spent much of each day observing the workers.

Eventually, the construction crew, all of them “gems-in-the-rough” more or less, adopted her as a kind of project mascot. They chatted with her, let her sit with them while they had coffee and lunch breaks and gave her little jobs to do here and there, to make her feel important.

At the end of the first week, they even presented her with a “pay” envelope containing ten dollars. The little girl took this home to her mother who suggested that she take her ten dollars “pay” she’d received to the bank the next day to start a savings account.

When the girl and her mom got to the bank, the teller was equally impressed and asked the little girl how she had come by her very own pay check at such a young age. The little girl proudly replied, “I worked last week with a real construction crew building the new house next door to us.”

“Oh my goodness gracious,” said the teller, “and will you be working on the house again this week, too?”

The little girl replied, “I will, if those schmuck’s at Lowe’s ever deliver the frigging sheet rock…”

Kind of brings a tear to the eye – doesn’t it?

~Steve~                                         H/T     Grouchy

Have you ever seen a baby seagull?

I haven’t.

I’ve taken daily walks by the sea. I’ve lived for more than 10 years by a lake. I’ve seen baby mallard ducklings, baby Canadian goslings, but I’ve never ever seen a baby seagull.

Here are some baby seagulls by the sea:

And here’s what they look like up close:

From Wiki:

The large species take up to four years to attain full adult plumage, but two years is typical for small gulls. Large White-Headed Gulls are typically long-lived birds, with a maximum age of 49 years recorded for the Herring Gull.

Gulls nest in large, densely packed noisy colonies. They lay two to three speckled eggs in nests composed of vegetation. The young are precocial, being born with dark mottled down, and mobile upon hatching.

Gulls—the larger species in particular—are resourceful, inquisitive and intelligent birds, demonstrating complex methods of communication and a highly developed social structure. For example, many gull colonies display mobbing behavior, attacking and harassing would-be predators and other intruders. Certain species (e.g. the Herring Gull) have exhibited tool use behavior, using pieces of bread as bait with which to catch goldfish, for example. Many species of gull have learned to coexist successfully with humans and have thrived in human habitats.

Gulls are monogamous…breeders that display mate fidelity that usually lasts for the life of the pair. Divorce of mated pairs does occur, but it apparently has a cost that persists for a number of years after the break up, and is thought to be selected against.

Both sexes incubate the eggs, with incubation bouts lasting between one and four hours during the day and one parent incubating through the night. Incubation lasts between 22 and 26 days…. Young chicks are brooded by their parents for about one or two weeks, and often at least one parent will remain with them until they fledge in order to guard them. Both parents feed the chicks, although early on in the rearing period the male does most of the feeding and the female most of the brooding and guarding.

Resourceful. Intelligent. Monogamous. Mate fidelity. Both parents work hard at feeding the kids.

Kinda puts humans to shame….

~Eowyn

A lesson in gun safety…and parenting

Bad parents....

Girl’s gun goes off in Starbucks

Wyoming News:   A 17-year-old Cheyenne teen was cited Monday after she dropped her purse, causing the gun she was carrying in it to go off in a local coffee shop.  After the round fired, the girl said, “I think my purse went off!”

According to the Cheyenne Police report about the incident, the girl, whose name is being withheld because she is a juvenile, dropped her purse around 6:45 a.m. Monday while she was at the cash register at Starbucks, 1112 Central Ave.  Two Cheyenne Police officers were in the coffee shop at the time. Once they heard the gunshot, they drew their pistols and scanned the shop.

The officers approached the teen and searched her purse, which had a large hole in it.  They found a double-barrel .38 special Derringer pistol in the girl’s purse. The top barrel had been fired.  According to the report, the bullet missed John Basile, 43, by about 12 inches. After nearly missing Basile’s head, the bullet hit the west wall of the store, bounced back to the east and rolled under the coffee counter.

The officers had the teen call her parents, who responded to Starbucks shortly after the incident.  The girl’s father said he had given the teen the pistol and encouraged her to carry it while traveling for her protection.  The girl said she keeps the gun in her room and had it with her because she was going to visit friends in Laramie.

She said she has never taken a hunter safety class or any kind of formal firearms training.  The teen’s mother told police that she doesn’t particularly like firearms because they “may just go off.” She said she knew her daughter had a pistol and encouraged her to point it at a “bad person” if she was ever in trouble.  The gun was returned to the teen’s parents.

The girl was issued a city summons for possession of a firearm by a juvenile, which carries a $750 bond and a “must appear in court” stipulation.  City ordinance stipulates that individuals must be 18 years old to carry any type of firearm within city limits.  Wyoming state statutes state that a person must be 21 years old to carry a concealed weapon.  According to federal law, individuals must be 21 years old to buy a pistol and 18 to buy a rifle or shotgun.

Several things oh so wrong with this:

  1. What kind of parent lets their teenager carry a gun without proper firearm training?  Are they out of their minds?
  2. She isn’t 18 so obviously didn’t have a concealed weapons permit, not cool.
  3. Why wasn’t she carrying this gun in a holster?  I know some women do carry in their purse yet a holster is much safer for preventing an accidental discharge.

In this case, I think the parents should be fined as well, at least for being major idiots (I know, that doesn’t exist).  Do they realize how lucky they are that the gun didn’t fire back up in their daughter’s face?  Or kill someone else?  Or kill one of those police officers?  It’s idiots like this that give responsible gun owners a bad name, and gives those proggies against the Second Amendment more “ammunition”.

DCG

It’s Little Johnny time.. Uh Oh!!

Not sure, but I think bottom row on left is Johnny

 

Little Johnny likes to gamble.

One day his dad gets a new job so his family has to move to a new city.

Johnny’s daddy thinks, “I’ll get a head start on Johnny’s gambling.”

So he calls the teacher and says, “My son Johnny will be starting your class tomorrow but he likes to gamble so you’ll have to keep an eye on him.”

The teacher says OK, she can handle it.

The next day Johnny walks into class and hands the teacher an apple and says, “Hi, my name is Johnny.”

She says yes I know who you are.

Johnny smiles and says, “I bet you ten dollars you’ve got a mole on your butt.”

The teacher thinks that she will break his little gambling problem so she takes him up on the bet.

She pulls her pants down and shows him her butt and there was no mole.

That afternoon, Johnny goes home and tells his dad that he lost ten dollars to the teacher and why.

So his dad calls the teacher and says, “Johnny said that he bet you that you had a mole on your butt and he lost.”

The teacher says, “Yeah, and I think I broke his gambling problem.”

Johnny’s dad laughs and says, “No you didn’t, he bet me a hundred dollars this morning that he’d see your butt before the day was over.”

~Steve~

Jimmy – Little Johnny’s cousin

Little Jimmy attended a horse auction with his father.

He watched as his father moved from horse to horse, running his hands up and down the horse’s legs and rump, and chest. After a few minutes, Larry asked, ‘Dad, why are you doing that?’ His father replied, ‘Because when I’m buying horses, I have to make sure that they are healthy and in good shape before I buy.

Little Larry, looking worried, said, ‘Dad, I think the UPS guy wants to buy Mom ….

~Steve~         H/T  Sam2