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‘The luckiest man alive’ insists raising a child in a ‘throuple’ is the future of parenting

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Dad, mum and mum and their kids

Because parenting and relationships should be all about logistics that make your life easier so you have time to socialize!

From Daily Mail: When a family announces that it is expecting, it is usually two parents that excitedly break the news. However, for Adam Lyons and his two girlfriends, it’s three parents who are getting increasingly excited about their forthcoming bundle of joy.

Two years ago, Adam Lyons, 36, who is from East London, but now lives in Austin, Texas, was dubbed ‘the luckiest man alive’ because of his unusual living arrangements with his two girlfriends Brooke Shedd and Jane Shalakhova.

At the time, Adam and Brooke had son, Dante, two, together but now the ‘throuple’ are expecting again after Jane fell pregnant. 

The threesome – who share a super-kingsize bed – believe the new baby, due in July, will make their family even more complete. Adam, 36, says: ‘It’s so sweet that we all get to parent and raise the kids together. We have talked about it at length and we all consider ourselves parents to the children. ‘

With the kids, our titles are officially “Dad”, “Mum” and “Mum”. For us, three definitely works better than two.’

In fact the threesome believe their unusual arrangement could be the future of relationships and parenting.

Adam, who runs his own business consulting company Psychology Hacker, says: ‘For us, three people works because it enables us to manage daily life so much better.  So many of our friends are in “normal” two-person couple relationships with kids, jobs and all the other typical responsibilities and I see them struggling to juggle their lives. It’s difficult with two people.  But with three parents, we always have the ability for one person to look after the kids.’

‘As a result, we never begrudge each other anything because we all have lots of time. With three people, it’s logistically so much easier to handle all those things – we share out the responsibilities and it fits our sexual preferences too.’

‘When Brooke, Jane and I first came out about our relationship, we had some criticism and certain people said we wouldn’t last.

But we’ve been going for five years now. What we have is not a fling or a phase, we’re a real family with healthy, happy kids. Our son Oliver doesn’t even recognise what is ‘unusual’ about our family.’

‘This should be the future of relationships, where people are able to enjoy love in any way they feel works. Three people and three parents makes so much sense to us.’

Indeed pregnant mother, Jane, 27, says that she never wanted children until she realised how much easier it was with three parents. Jane, who also works with Adam in his business consulting company, explains: ‘When I had boyfriends before, I never wanted or cared about kids. Growing up, I always thought that when you had a baby, you became a slave to your child. You see a lot of parents struggling. But raising Dante with Adam and Brooke and watching him grow up with three parents around – I realise we could do it as a family. With three parents around, it’s so doable.’

With three parents, we can still have a social life, make time for one another and share the parenting tasks so you don’t end up like the typical sleep-deprived mum! With two partners, there’s so much help and I’ll never have to leave my kids with someone I don’t trust.’

Bisexual Brooke, 28, – who also has son, Oliver, 7 from a previous relationship – says: ‘I’m so excited for Jane’s pregnancy – I love talking to her bump. I’ve always wanted four sons so this is a dream come true. ‘I think our good parenting is one of the sexiest things about our relationship. It’s incredible to see them Adam and Jane with the kids and how we share all the responsibilities.’

‘We definitely want a few more kids and I would love to have a wedding to show my commitment to Adam and Jane. Oliver says he would like to get married someday too and he knows three people can be really happy together in a relationship. We’re setting a good example.

Adam, Jane and Brooke all live together on a large plot of land with two separate houses – one of which they use as an office and one of which Brooke uses as a home school where she plans to teach all the trio’s children.

Bisexual Jane says: ‘We love living and working together – the family house is a one-minute walk from our office. Adam and I can have meetings in the office and head back home for lunch with Brooke and the kids. It allows us to spend more time together. I love coming home and getting a kiss from Brooke, Dante and Oliver!

‘My pregnancy was a planned one. We were trying for a baby – it just felt like the right time and parenting together as a threesome is a lot of fun.’

Read the rest of the story here.

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Elitist Labour Party politician insists she isn’t a hypocrite as she defends right to send son to private school

Typical proggie…

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From Daily Mirror: Labour’s newest peer has defended her right to send her son to a selective private school – despite fighting grammar schools because they cause “segregation”.

Shami Chakrabarti insisted living a “charmed life” in a “nice big house” did not make her a hypocrite. The human rights lawyer and new shadow attorney general was confronted after The Sunday Times reported her son attends Dulwich College in south London.

The famous school, which educated author PG Wodehouse and Ukip rabble-rouser Nigel Farage, has an entry exam and fees that start at nearly £19,000 a year.

She told ITV’s Peston on Sunday: “I have real concerns about grammar schools. In my lifetime, I have met too many people, including incredibly bright, successful people, who carry that scar of failing the 11-plus, and that segregation in schooling.”

Unprompted, she added: “I know you’re now going to follow up by asking me about newspaper reports about my own son’s education. All I will say is I live a charmed and privileged life, much more now than I ever did when I was a child. People on the left have often had charmed and privileged lives.

Baroness Chakrabarti, who Jeremy Corbyn gave a seat in the House of Lords over the summer, was told she would be accused of hypocrisy over her son’s schooling.

Baroness Chakrabarti

Baroness Chakrabarti

The former Liberty director replied: “I live in a nice big house, and eat nice food, and my neighbours are homeless, and go to food banks. Does that make me a hypocrite, or does it make me someone who is trying to do best, not just for my own family, but for other people’s families too?

“And this thing about selection – if you’ve got money you will always be all right. If you don’t have money in this country you are increasingly not all right, and that is why I have joined the Labour Party .”

Baroness Chakrabarti said she understood concerns about middle-class parents needing to raise standards by putting their children in the state system. She did not deny details about her son when they were put to her, but added: “I am not going to get into the personal stuff because there is a child in this world who didn’t choose to be Shami Chakrabarti’s child, so I’m afraid I’m going to leave it at that.”

Read the rest of the story here.

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French family-of-10 demand a bigger house: Benefits dad rejects 5-bed as ‘too cramped’

The "depressed" Sube family...

The “depressed” Sube family…

From Express UK: Arnold and Jeanne Sube, originally from Cameroon in west Africa, live in a three-bed semi costing the state more than £15,000 a year.  But when Luton council came up with the extra two bedrooms, the couple insisted the house on offer was still not big enough. 

Labour councillor Tom Shaw said: “People have to realise we are in the middle of a national housing crisis.  We have more than 10,000 people on the waiting list and 1,000 in temporary accommodation. “

This family are living in a large three-bed house. We managed to find them a large four-bed house and then a five-bed, which they turned down.  We can’t be any more sympathetic. We can’t just magic the property people want out of thin air.”

A five-bedroom, tax-payer provided home is just too small

A five-bedroom, tax-payer provided home is just too small

Michael Garrett, Tory leader on the council, added: “There are not many five-bedroom council houses in Luton and they were lucky to be offered one. I haven’t a lot of sympathy for them.”

Student Mr. Sube, 33, moved his family to Britain from Paris four years ago. He has children aged from three months to 16. The oldest is Mejane, followed by Fabian and Analia, both 13, ten-year-old Prosper, nine-year old Dylan, six-year-old twins Sharon and Stacy and the youngest, Mary.

They live in Bletchley, Beds, in a home that boasts a large flat-screen TV with Sky HD, plus a TV and X-Box console in the children’s rooms. 

The larger home offered to them is in nearby Luton. Mr. Sube, who studies mental health nursing at the University of Bedfordshire, rejected it because there “wasn’t space for the things of ten people”. 

He added: “Me and my family have been neglected. We are in a three-bedroom house. It’s so cramped and the conditions are terrible.  The council is trying to make things hard for us. My wife is a full-time mother and I am a student. “They’re just making excuses. We need a five or six-bedroom house with double rooms to comfortably fit in.

“We have developed depression, anxiety, which we were on medication for. The area is the worst I have lived in. This is the worst house.” 

Before their present home the family were put up in a hotel for four months and then given a five-bed home but they were evicted. 

A Luton Borough Council spokesman said: “We managed to find Mr. and Mrs. Sube affordable housing large enough to house them and their children.  If declined without, what we judge, good reason, then we will offer the property to another family.”

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More than 33,000 people died needlessly over the past few years because of shocking flaws in NHS treatment

Ain’t government run health care grand?

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From the Daily Mail: More than 33,000 people died needlessly over ten years because of poor care after a heart attack, a major study has found.

Nine out of ten patients do not receive the correct treatment after an attack, it revealed. Shockingly, the researchers warned that the true number of needless deaths could be twice as high as their estimate. Doctors said the findings were ‘unacceptable’ and needed urgent attention across the NHS.

The failure to stick to international treatment guidelines contributes to a quarter of heart attack deaths in England and Wales, which experts say could be easily avoided.

The researchers estimate that one patient dies needlessly every month in every hospital in England and Wales because of poor care – including failing to give patients certain drugs and not ordering crucial scans.

Someone suffers a heart attack every three minutes in the UK, with nearly 200 people of working age dying every week. Treatment has improved rapidly in recent years, with the development of 24/7 acute cardiac units meaning patients are fast-tracked to expert teams.

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But the new study reveals the treatment of patients after an attack is falling woefully short. The researchers analysed 390,000 cases of the most common type of heart attack – called a non-ST elevation heart attack or NSTEMI – in 247 hospitals in England and Wales between 2003 and 2013.

For each case they checked whether the patient had been given 13 treatments – including scans, drugs and medical advice – recommended in international guidelines. They found that in 87 per cent of cases, patients did not receive at least one of the interventions.

Doctors often failed to give patients anti-cholesterol statin drugs or anti-clotting drugs, which are proven to drastically reduce the risk of a repeat attack.

They missed out crucial scans, which can pick up further hidden problems, and they neglected to advise patients about the best way to change their lifestyle, including how to improve their diet and stop smoking. The researchers from the University of Leeds and University College London wrote in the European Heart Journal: ‘We found that if all patients during the study period had received the investigations and treatments for which they were eligible… around 33,000 deaths may have been prevented. This equates to over a quarter of all NSTEMI deaths, or about one avoidable death per month per hospital over the last decade.’

The team used data from the Myocardial Ischaemia National Audit Project (MINAP) and said: ‘We speculate that MINAP captures less than half of all NSTEMI in England and Wales. Consequently, the number of preventable deaths that we report will be underestimated.’

They concluded: ‘We clearly show that, across a modern healthcare system such as in the UK, there are substantial opportunities to improve outcomes through relatively simple measures.’

Read the whole story here.

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Teenagers shunning part-time jobs because of exam pressure and ‘apathy’ towards work

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Daily Mail: While their parents probably all had jobs washing the dishes in a pub or delivering the morning paper, teenagers today are rejecting weekend jobs in favour of working on their studies – or doing nothing at all.

The number of 16-17-year-olds working has more than halved in the last two decades – according to data from the Office of National Statistics.  Exam pressure, apathy and more of a desire to hire adults are among the contributing factors to the decline in working teens – as well as the fact that far more are staying in school.

In 1992, just under half of the 16-17-year-olds had jobs, as opposed to around 20 percent today. The number of working on a Saturday or over the summer is down to around the same proportion – whereas it used to be double that. This shows that teenagers are not only shunning jobs in favour of education, but also deciding not to work alongside their studies.

Mark Beaston, Chief Economist at the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development, believes Saturday jobs are being rejected because of increased pressure to succeed academically, as well as a change in the labour market.

More people are now happy to work unusual hours, while those under 16 cannot drive or work before 7am – meaning many employers prefer to give jobs like delivering newspapers to adults.

Anne Bingham, from the National Federation of Retail Newsagents, told the Financial Times: “There are still paper boys but a lot of our members are moving to employ adults.”

However, some teenagers admit that the reason for not working in their free time can just because of the lure of going on extravagant summer holidays – or even plain idleness.

“There’s an apathy among the youth, most want to have these amazing holidays in the summer,” said Dan Cohen, a student working two jobs – as an office temp and waiter. “During term time there’s a massive emphasis on studying. And then when summer comes it’s like you’ve got two months to chill out.

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Cinco de Mayo. And Now The Rest Of The Story.

Most people don’t know that back in 1912, Hellmann’s mayonnaise was manufactured in England. In fact, the Titanic was carrying 12,000 jars of the condiment scheduled for delivery in Vera Cruz, Mexico, which was 
to be the next port of call for the great ship after its stop in New York.      

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This would have been the largest single shipment of mayonnaise ever delivered to Mexico. But as we know, the great ship did not make it to New York. The ship hit an iceberg and sank. The people of Mexico, who were crazy about mayonnaise, and were eagerly awaiting its delivery, were disconsolate at the loss. Their anguish was so great, that they declared a National Day of Mourning.

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The National Day of Mourning occurs each year on May 5th and is known, of course, as – Sinko De Mayo.

~Steve~                                               H/T   Mark McGrew

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An Irish Ghost Story.

This story happened a while ago in Dublin, and even though it sounds like an Alfred Hitchcock tale, it’s true.

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John Bradford, a Dublin University student, was on the side of the road hitch-hiking on a very dark night and in the midst of a big storm.

The night was rolling on and no car went by. The storm was so strong he could hardly see a few feet ahead of him.
Suddenly, he saw a car slowly coming towards him and stopped.

John, desperate for shelter and without thinking about it, got into the car and closed the door… only to realize there was nobody behind the wheel and the engine wasn’t on. The car started moving slowly. John looked at the road ahead and saw a curve approaching. Scared, he started to pray, begging for his life.

Then, just before the car hit the curve, a hand appeared out of nowhere through the window, and turned the wheel. John, paralysed with terror, watched as the hand came through the window, but never touched or harmed him.

Shortly thereafter John saw the lights of a pub appear down the road, so, gathering strength, he jumped out of the car and ran to it.
Wet and out of breath, he rushed inside and started telling everybody about the horrible experience he had just had.

A silence enveloped the pub when everybody realized he was crying… and wasn’t drunk.

Suddenly the door opened, and two other people walked in from the dark and stormy night. They, like John, were also soaked and out of breath.

Looking around, and seeing John Bradford sobbing at the bar, one said to the other…

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“Look Patrick, there’s that idiot that got in the car while we were pushing it!”

 ~Steve~                   H/T    Joseph