Student: I was expelled from Oklahoma school for marrying another woman

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Christian Minard (r) married Kadyn Parks on March 17, 2014.

Christian Minard (r) married Kadyn Parks on March 17, 2014.

CNN: First there was friendship. Then there was romance. After that there was marriage.

And now, at what would have been a few weeks from her senior year in college, Christian Minard finds herself expelled from school — because the person she married is another woman.

In a letter from earlier this month that Minard shared with CNN, an administrator at Southwestern Christian University noted that he’d been told of Minard’s same-sex homosexual marriage and saw pictures of it posted to Facebook.

Such a union is in apparent conflict with the “lifestyle covenant” of the university “that all students must agree and sign,” he added.

“As an American and a Christian, I do respect your choice,” the administrator wrote. “(But) I have to uphold the Lifestyle Covenant at SCU and confront you with our position. “Due to this recent event, you will not be able to attend SCU in the future.”

When asked to confirm that the school — which describes itself as part of the “International Pentecostal Holiness” denomination — sent the letter and to elaborate on the decision, the school’s provost, Connie Sjoberg, said only that federal law “prohibits us from confirming if an individual is or has been a student at our institution.”

Sjoberg added, “We therefore cannot comment on your specific request.”

Did Minard sign the school’s morality covenant? Yes, she concedes. But she still thinks her expulsion is unfair. Plenty of other students violate the contract in one way or another without being expelled, she says. Minard thinks she is singled out because she’s a lesbian.

In addition to the emotional sting, the 22-year-old says she is now stuck personally — not knowing what to do, or where to go next.

“I’m trying to figure out how and where I can graduate,” she told CNN, noting that she’ll have to start paying off her loans at the end of next year unless things change. “… It’s going to be hard to get into classes that may be full, because they gave me very little notice before the fall semester starts.”

Located in the metropolitan Oklahoma City community of Bethany, Southwestern Christian University’s website states the school’s three core values are scholarship, service and spirit. The latter value includes “building a Christ-centered community,” “honoring our Pentecostal Holiness heritage” and “respecting diversity and various Christian backgrounds.”

Minard came to the school on scholarship for basketball, though her playing career was cut short after doctors told her — after she’d suffered multiple concussions — that she should avoid sports with physical contact.

“I stayed on without a scholarship,” Minard said, “because I was so invested in the university and knew that some credits wouldn’t transfer to other schools.”

Meanwhile, her life was changing in other ways as well. About 3½ years ago, she met her future spouse, Kadyn Park. They started out as friends, and romance blossomed over time. “We eventually fell in love and decided to get married,” Minard said.

The couple wed March 17 in Albuquerque, New Mexico — a state where same-sex homosexual marriage is legal.

She had planned to become a strength and conditioning coach. “Once I graduated,” Minard said, “I was willing to go wherever life took me.” Her educational and professional path, though, is now far from clear.

Yet Minard feels that she’s in the right place in her own spiritual journey. Having grown up in the Lutheran Church, Minard notes that she “at first … struggled” with the idea that her faith was at odds with her sexuality.

“I had questions, but I worked through those questions,” she said. “And now I have a strong faith in God. And I believe you can still have faith in God and live a gay lifestyle.”


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  1. Reblogged this on Dead Citizen's Rights Society.

  2. …“I had questions, but I worked through those questions,” she said. “And now I have a strong faith in God. And I believe you can still have faith in God and live a gay lifestyle.”…
    2Th 2:11-12 And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: (12) That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness.
    I feel pity for these people, knowing that at the appropriate time their willful twisting of scripture will rain damnation down upon their heads. Those who in their headlong rush to diversify society, and bring it’s morals to something lower than nature itself practices, and cloak it in the respectability of Christianity are setting themselves up for an ass kicking we can’t even imagine.
    Mar 9:42 And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.
    Offend, in this verse doesn’t mean the same as we think of offend today, offend in the usage in this verse is defined as such;
    To “scandalize”; from G4625; to entrap, that is, trip up (figuratively stumble [transitively] or entice to sin, apostasy or displeasure): – (make to) offend.
    I hate what they do in the name of Christianity, what the give license in the name of God, calling it love. Is it any wonder Jesus wept?

  3. . “And now I have a strong faith in God. And I believe you can still have faith in God and live a gay lifestyle.”
    This woman is deluded. She can have all the faith in God she wants. Does she think faith gets one into heaven…….The Man has rules you know! What is it about the word “abomination” that she is having trouble understanding? I don;t even know a stronger word that God could use in the Bible to describe his disgust at what she is doing. And why would she presume that a Pentecostal University would simply allow her to go on her merry way? What drives these people? They are the biggest bunch of insecure whiners that I have ever encountered. BOO HOO!!!!!

  4. traildustfotm

    Sad and troubling trend. There will be more people like her, trying to break down the Christian institutions. God wants us to love her, but deplore the sin. We are all sinners, and if God hated us for it, He would not have ransomed us through Jesus’ death on the cross.
    Hate the sin, but love the sinner.

  5. “I had questions, but I worked through those questions,” she said. “And now I have a strong faith in God. And I believe you can still have faith in God and live a gay lifestyle.” So, is she saying that since she has “accepted” her homosexuality that NOW she has a strong faith in God? Where was the strong faith prior? I’m disgusted that she used her sodomite lifestyle to justify her ‘stronger’ faith in God….if ever there was a prime example of an oxymoron, here it is. “her faith was at odds with her sexuality”….her sexuality was more important. There are many homosexuals who believe in God…does that mean they are going to heaven? NO. You must repent the sin and ask forgiveness and NEVER COMMIT THE OFFENDING ACT AGAIN…show contrition, otherwise you continue to sin against God’s desires and trying to justify it by saying you have faith in God is ridiculous. Let me guess, she is now going to file a discrimination lawsuit against the school because she believes they wronged her….perpetual victim mentality. She attended a Christian university, aware they have set values, moral code, and faith…committed abominations against those values, morals, and faith and is now crying about it. Seems to me she should have attended a school that accepts her ‘behavior’ or rejected homosexuality. We know what she chose. Her desires came before God’s…she, and others like her, will reap what they sow.

  6. Where is the problem? This is a Christian University! God Bless them they stood for what is right! According to the 2010 Census figures, 80% of the U. S. Population is Christian. 1.8% of the U. S. Population is Jewish and the muslim population is 2.1%. The Orthodox church is 1%. This means that approximately 85% of the United States citizens believe in God! According to the Bible, Homosexuality is an Abomination to God! The practice is not acceptable to any of these religions. According to Gallup Polls, only 4% of the United States population are “Gay” Come reason with me! The basic Constitutional Design and Rule in our nation is that the”majority rules”, RIGHT? Well, Big News Flash, Homosexuals are NOT the majority! I don’t call them “Gays” because that word to me means Happy! I am older, you see! Homosexuals are a minority of the population! Our Wonderful Constitution provides that they have the right to be and to “Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness”! That is absolute! However, they DO NOT RUN OUR COUNTRY! In order not to hurt someone’s feelings do you change everything to accommodate them? NO! The rules are made for the majority! What is wrong with our country? Stand up majority and say “THIS FAR AND NO FARTHER!” You don’t become obsessed and teach my children your way! It is a variant “lifestyle” whether it is your’s or not! I am the majority! I am Christian! I believe in GOD! 85% of Americans believe in God! Homosexuality is an abomination to God! Leviticus 18:22&23… Dear God, Please help us Wake Up and take back our country!

  7. Well, it is sad that her educational career has been disrupted; now she has to transfer to another university. All of her credits may not transfer. But when we make choices, there are consequences to those choices. It is not fair for her to seek to be absolved from the consequences of dismissal. Because, if she were not to face these consequences, then she would personally have control by her own choices of the Christian university. In other words, she would be “writing the law” for the whole community itself by her individual choices. That would make her a dictator… because by her personal choice… the law and rules of the entire community would be written. So, I hope that she can see that she should not try to be a dictator dictating to an entire community the law of her own choice.

    • “her educational career has been disrupted; now she has to transfer to another university” you said and she said, “I was willing to go wherever life took me.” She acts like she’s the first student this has ever happened to and now she’s the victim because her education has been disrupted. Please, she needs to quit playing the victim card.

  8. Leeann Springer

    Homosexuality has always been in society. It’s the celebration and pride of the abomination, that will lead to the destruction of our country. God will not bless a person or a nation that takes deliberate and celebrated pride in grievous sins such as sodomy. Nowhere in the Bible does it say “hate the sin, but love the sinner”. God never condoned sin or the sinner. It says in Luke 5:31: I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. Jesus died on the cross so that others would reconcile themselves to God. Those who do not reconcile themselves to God, bring on their own condemnation. As for this country trying to “normalize something that is vile” it will bring on a national demise. America is under judgment now, for condoning what God clearly hates. Sodomites may have faith in some other god, but it sure isn’t our living God; as in God The Father, His son Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. Leeann

  9. This person is a Junior in college and she makes such astoundingly wrong and foolish choices? Has she learned anything about life and the responsibility ones choices carry? I would never hire this person to be an employee of mine as she obviously feels that she gets to dictate to the University (and later possibly an employer) what SHE feels should happen. This despite a signed agreement she voluntarily made saying that she would follow the University rules? No way! What if there were a dress code at her employer and she shows up one day in a bikini because “It just looks so darn cute on me so to heck with what the dress code I agreed to says.”
    Let’s see if I can quickly explain why so much of what she did was so wrong. Let me say first that I have no problem with her being a lesbian. This is not about her sexual orientation but in the long run it is about her inability to follow the rules of the University. Sex is just the area of the rules that she decided she could ignore or do away with because she is “special” and she should not have to face consequences for her actions.
    The first unbelievably foolish thing she did was to go forward with this “marriage” (in quotes because lesbian marriage is not recognized in that state) and to make it so public that it forced the University hand She made no plans to transfer to another school but blames the University for the hardship she is now going to have to face because of her actions. It is obvious to me that she wanted to test the rules otherwise she would have quietly transferred to another school during the summer. She tested the rules. She lost. She’s out.
    Second, she knew when she enrolled that it was a conservative Christian school with stricter rules than some other schools. She knew it and agreed (in writing) to the rules so she knew exactly what she had signed up for. No matter that she was in a time crunch and her choices may have been limited. That’s not the schools fault is it? They took her under the caveat that she follow the rules. She didn’t. She’s out.
    After blatantly not following the rules she just HAD to rub it in the face of the University by posting it on Facebook where she was sure someone from the school would see it. By doing this she dared the University to do something about it. The school did. She’s out.
    The fact is she is learning a lesson she should have learned long before now. All decisions and actions have consequences. You cannot spit into the wind and not expect it to fly back into your face.
    I hate to tell you this Ms. Minard but it is not the University’s place to help you decide what to do or where to go next. You’re a grown up and responsible for your choices just like you were responsible for marrying another woman against University rules and responsible for the consequences. It is difficult for me to believe that you paid for your college yourself and I would imagine that your parents took that responsibility for you. If you had paid for it yourself you would not have taken the chance of getting kicked out, losing credits if you transfer to another school and wasting all of the hard earned money you had worked for. But now I guess you will go to your parents and ask them to pay even more when you transfer to another school. I hope they are wise enough to let you pay for your own mistakes and have you find a way to pay for your next school yourself. I bet you won’t foolishly throw it away when you have to front the bill?

  10. I am with the school on this one. This university made it clear to this student from the get-go what their positions were, and they had this “lady” sign it. So it’s apparent to me that this “lady” did this to flip the school off with a clear violation of contract.
    Infiltrators usually are more clever than this!

  11. My son attended this school last year. He said that they constantly stress that homosexuality is wrong, so there is no way this chick could have been that surprised by this action. I just fear that there will be a lawsuit with Eric Holder’s name all over it!! Hopefully they will not back down.

  12. Apparently there are some fundamental mis or disinformation in the way this young woman was brought up… Before she attended this school I would imagien she attended public school, and was indoctrinated via the “health”/sex “ed” (Read: conditioning/brainwashing) classes therein, whats more, with no proper understanding of the entire spiritual realm nor of actual cosmology presented in such an environment, she has some demons to exorcise, figuratively and I do imagine literally.
    She should also seek education on what Love actually is and that there are different sorts, also that lust is not love, and is about as worthless as a paper penny. She may have lust for the other young woman, and she may have a sort of love for her (like the sort had between close friends in the real world.) but she does *not* have the Love a husband has for a wife, nor a wife for a husband, and neither she nor her False spouse will ever know that unless they can step away from the mental-spiritual illness that is homosexuality, and realize it is a trick of the devil to rob people of their life, happiness, and quality of life, all the while making a mockery of them and trying to insult God at the same time. I do hope someone with some real understanding can get through to her and her False spouse, and get that information through to them, but only God can change their hearts.

    • Seumas, this woman was raised within the Lutheran Church. They are notoriously liberal. Most branches but not all allow sodomite pastors which could have contributed to this woman’s confusion.

  13. Like an old Jerry Lewis movie I say, “Hey Laaaaay-deeee! Boo Hoo!” : This is a private University. Did you NOT know that when you applied & then later checked the box “I will be attending,” when you were offered acceptance? Did you not sign the morality covenant? Furthermore—you have NO standing in claiming that “others” have violated the covenant in some manner….b/c you have NO RIGHT to evaluate anyone else’s conduct with the university. MYOB. That’s between those OTHER students and the university…JUST LIKE your situation is between YOU and the university. GROW UP! That “everyone else does it” excuse doesn’t work at your age! Meanwhile …YOUR business IS the business of the university b/c they are a private institution with covenants to which you agreed when you applied and accepted their invitation to take a slot in their curriculum….and when you intentionally signed a morality agreement, which, evidently, covered the present choices you’ve made.
    What ever happened to manners/common sense & decent citizenry? WHATEVER her personal sexual preferences, this student could have transferred to another college/university before pursuing a private lifestyle in conflict w/operating tenants of this private, Christian school. But NO… this day & age, the few must harass the many (tyranny of the minority?), EVEN the privately-held associations/corporations, to bow to personal proclivities/abberations. ( She noted that she thought of transferring, but some of her courses wouldn’t transfer….”count’ …..w/other colleges or universities.) OMG! Call the “Wham-bulance!” She would “lose credits” if she transferred to another school….just like ALL THE OTHER GAY AND STRAIGHT AND IN-BETWEEN students would! She’d have to pick up a few more courses to make her graduation credits! “UNFAIR” she says! She’d have to make arrangements to accomodate her chosen lifestyle! UNFAIR….the other people (university) should pay for her chosen lifestyle! GIVE US A BREAK! Suck it up. This student went her way, & must now navigate the waters of her chosen sea/waters, just like anyone else.


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