A "Modern Family"?

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Woman has baby with the lover her boyfriend encouraged her to take

Dailymail:  Jaiya Ma had been living her boyfriend Jon Hanauer, 49, for six years when he urged her to take a new lover.  Within weeks, Jaiya, 34, fell for a furniture designer Ian Ferguson, 44, at a dance class, and a year later she fell pregnant with his baby.  But Jon supported Jaiya, welcomed Ian into his home, and the two men helped deliver baby Eamon during an orgasmic labor.
Now the three live together in a beautiful home in Topanga, California, raising Eamon, two and a half.  ‘I am so lucky,’ said Jaiya, a sexologist. ‘I have two amazing men who really care for me and Eamon. Having three parents around just makes life even better, and everyone talks about how advanced Eamon is.’
Jaiya and Jon met in June 2000, while taking tantric yoga classes in Cincinnati, Ohio, and fell in love in March 2001 during a tantric teacher training course. Six months later, Jaiya and Jon began living and working together, helping couples who had trouble in their sex lives and writing a book, Red Hot Touch, about the importance of touching your partner to keep a relationship alive.
‘We had an open relationship, where we could be really honest and tell each other if we were attracted to other people,’ said Jaiya.  ‘But in 2007 I met a guy who was much younger and started a relationship with him, as Jon was okay with it. Eventually he came to live with us.’
But after a few months, Jaiya discovered the man, who she declines to name, had betrayed her by sleeping with a friend before she’d given her agreement.  Jon said: ‘I was devastated for Jaiya, and I felt guilty because I should have protected her. This guy was very manipulative and I was angry at myself that I was so fooled by him. It made me retreat into myself and I didn’t even want to leave the house. Jaiya wanted to connect and I just couldn’t.’
The couple moved to Los Angeles to promote their new DVD and Jon started to worry Jaiya needed to go out and meet new people.  ‘Jon became very quiet and introverted,’ she said. ‘He told me I should find another guy to be with. At that stage we were going through a difficult time. But our work kept us together.’
Jaiya placed an advert on Craigslist asking men if they’d like to take her out, and was instantly flooded with requests and went out on four dinner dates.  ‘On July 11, 2007, I went to an ecstatic dance class and that’s where I met Ian.  I was trying to avoid dancing with the other men but Ian was a bit more expressive, and suddenly I felt arms come underneath my arms and I immediately felt incredibly safe.’  Ian told Jaiya he had gone through a divorce and had begun dating other women, but had discovered polyamorous relationships just two weeks before.  ‘I was surprised to learn he was polyamorous,’ said Jaiya. ‘We seemed to meet each other at exactly the right time.
‘I’d already told Jon I’d met this amazing guy and he’d been genuinely happy for me.’  Ian added: ‘I found talking to Jaiya so refreshing. She really understands men because of her work. We fell head over heels in love without feeling romantic about it. We didn’t have to think we’d found: “The One”.

Jaiya and Ian in the birthing pool as Jon looks on

Jaiya and Ian began a sexual relationship, and a year later, while they were still discussing trying for a baby, Jaiya fell pregnant.  ‘I had previously discussed having children with Jon, but he felt he wasn’t ready to have a baby,’ said Jaiya.  Jon added: ‘I asked her if she was sure about having the baby and she said she was. Once I knew it was what she really wanted I was okay with it too.
Ian helped pay for Jaiya and Jon to move into a new house in the mountains of Topanga, California, and the three adults took classes to prepare for a home labour and ‘orgasmic’ birth.  ‘We had a doula and even a film crew who were filming the birth for our new DVD,’ says Jon. ‘All eight of us were cleansed of any ill feeling so we could welcome the new baby into the world.’  On the day of Eamon’s birth on March 23 2009, Jaiya, Ian and Jon were all in the birthing pool.
The birth brought Jaiya, Jon and Ian closer and they decided to live together as a family.  When Jaiya returned to work, Jon volunteered to be the main caregiver and to stay at home with the baby.
The three admit it will be more difficult when Eamon starts school. But Jaiya added: ‘There are so many modern families these days, with stepdads and stepmoms, or two dads, or two moms, it might not seem so different. Eamon learned to call Ian dadda without anyone telling him to say that. Sometimes he calls Jon “Poppa Jon” or “my caretaker”.’
Jon adds: ‘It has made me realise how much I want my own child. But if I meet another woman, it would have to be someone who would fit in with our family.’
Jaiya says: ‘I’m looking for adventure at the moment, so I might want to find another partner in the future. But I’ll always have a relationship with Jon and Ian, however that evolves.’
And Ian adds: ‘I hope if we have new relationships they will add to the rest of the group. It would be great to have other polyamorous people in our area, so the community can support each other.’
Alrighty then.  Enjoy your lives as you see fit.   Heaven forbid you think about the emotional ramifications this may have on your child.   
I find this very selfish and weak.  Selfish in that they seek whatever desire they want to fulfill without thinking through the consequences to the child.  They even admit it will be difficult for him in school.  Secondly, I find it weak that they cannot control their sexual desires to remain committed to one individual.  I know I could never have two sexual relationships with two different men at the same time, under the same roof!  Maybe I’m just a little old-fashioned 🙂

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7 responses to “A "Modern Family"?

  1. Welcome to the brave new world of “I have two daddies! but neither is married to my mommy! who will likely get me a 3rd or a 4th or even a 5th daddy soon!”
    The part of this news account that confounds me, apart from the icky “free love” polyandry, is the description of the woman’s childbirth labor as “orgasmic.” Hardly. Childbirth ranks at the top of the scale of pain intensity.
    Maybe it was “orgasmic” for the two sex-addled men.

  2. This article makes me want to throw up. God help us.

  3. This was sooooo wrong on soooo many different levels that I could not even finish reading it… Lord help us…

  4. Wow. I’m shocked speechless.
    This poor child.

  5. I birthed four, and there is nothing “orgasmic” about it–enough said!

  6. Life imitates cuckold porn… freaky-city!

  7. I have seen it all now but I’m sure there are other horrors yet to be revealed. No doubt some pervert will soon get married to his right hand!


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