Divorced 29-year-old says people under 25 shouldn’t be allowed to marry
MyNorthwest.com:A recently divorced woman has a message for those under 25 considering tying the knot: Don’t! In a column for The Huffington Post, 29-year- old Toronto PR professional Jennifer Nagy is making a case for why people under the age of 25 shouldn’t be allowed to marry.
“I do believe that it would be for the best, better both for the institution of marriage and the individuals getting married, if we could change the law to prevent couples from getting married before the age of 25,” Nagy writes.
Nagy got married when she was 24-years-old, and by age 29, after a nine-year relationship, she and her husband separated. “I was with this person since I was 19 and I found in my experience that going through a long-term relationship starting when you’re so young and you don’t have the knowledge of yourself and what you want in life, wasn’t necessarily the best idea,” says Nagy.
She says in her case, she’d been so focused on working and developing a career she hadn’t really spent a lot of time considering who she was and what she wanted, and when she finally took the time, she realized she felt pretty disconnected from the life she’d established for herself.
“I found myself as a much older woman realizing that I didn’t really know myself. I didn’t feel connected to my life. Once I decided that, it was very tough to be able to continue with a marriage and a life that I didn’t feel any connection to.”
In her column, Nagy cites statistics from the National Center for Health that says around 60 percent of marriages of couples between the ages of 20 and 25 end in divorce.
Nagy says she doesn’t expect every marriage between people under age 25 will go bust, but she does think it makes things more difficult. “I do definitely think that there are people out there that can make it work,” says Nagy.
“I think the reason I wrote this article was because I wanted to raise awareness of the fact that people should be thinking about more than just ‘I love this person and I want to get married,'” says Nagy. “I think there should be some thought about who I am and whether I’m ready for this, and whether my maturity level, and my potential spouse, whether their maturity levels, are high enough to really survive the ups and downs of marriage.”
So does Nagy believe her marriage would have lasted if she married at 25-years-old instead of 24? I doubt it.
She’s entitled to her opinion, of course. Yet that doesn’t mean it should be a law. Nor does it guarantee that everyone that marries after the age of 25 will remain in a committed marriage. Just ask Al Gore, Andrew Cuomo, Newt Gingrich, and Rush Limbaugh.