Man demands abortion after surrogate learns she's having triplets

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Well this turned into a terrible situation, especially for one of the babies.

Melissa Cook/Photo via NY Post

Melissa Cook/Photo via NY Post

A Georgia man hired Melissa Cook (age 47) for $33,000 to have a child by in-vitro fertilization using his sperm and the eggs of a 20-year-old donor. The woman, from California, was implanted with three embryos. The “dad” became overwhelmed when he learned she was having triplets — and demanded the woman abort one of the fetuses while threatening her with financial ruin, Melissa claims.
“They are human beings. I bonded with these kids. This is just not right,” Melissa Cook told The Post. They learned she was having triplets when the embryos babies were around 8 or 9 weeks. He almost immediately began to raise concerns, and they have grown increasingly threatening, she said.
Cook, a mother of four — including her own set of triplets — is now 17 weeks pregnant. She also had a fifth child as a surrogate. According to California law, aside from life-threatening exceptions, fetuses babies can’t be aborted once they become “viable,’’ or around 20 weeks.
The dad’s lawyer, Robert Warmsley, says “the dad understands, albeit does not agree, with your decision not to reduce,” which he wrote in a Friday letter to Cook, who has never met the sperm donor.
Apparently they have an agreement, hence the threat of financial harm. “As you know, his remedies where you refuse to abide by the terms of the agreement, are immense [and] include, but are not limited to, loss of all benefits under the agreement, damages in relation to future care of the children [and] medical costs associated with any extraordinary care the children may need,” the lawyer warned.
The surrogate  received another letter from Warmsley on Tuesday urging her to schedule a “selection reduction” — abortion of one of the fetuses babies — by day’s end.
Cook wrote an emotional letter to the dad, “The doctor put in three healthy embryos . . . The chances were high they were all going to take. You knew I was 47 years old. If you knew you only wanted two babies, then why put in three embryos?” According to her contract, Cook is entitled to her $33,000 pregnancy fee for one baby, plus an additional $6,000 for each additional child.
Given the pressure she’s under, Cook said she was wavering on her decision to keep all three babies. “I have to reduce. I’m scared. I don’t want to suffer,” said Cook, who is split from her husband and lives in Woodland Hills, Calif. (What about the baby’s suffering?)
Jennifer Lahl, head of the Center for Bioethics and Culture, a group that opposes surrogacy, said the Cook case is the first she’s aware of in which a surrogate mom has gone public to expose the pressure she’s under to undergo an abortion.
The dad’s lawyer declined comment to the New York Post.

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0 responses to “Man demands abortion after surrogate learns she's having triplets

  1. Just because biotechnology now enables surrogate-for-pay conception doesn’t mean it’s morally acceptable. Human beings, specifically babies, should not be treated as impersonal soul-less commodities. How is this different from prostitution for pay & profit?
    The U.S. govt. has seen fit to intrude in everything, but refuses to provide legislative constraints or guidelines on surrogacy, resulting in the horrible predicament of Melissa Cook.
    As for the unnamed “dad,” shame on him. I can’t help but wonder if he’s homosexual and exactly why he wants babies via a surrogate womb. There is always adoption.

  2. There is little doubt that it is a slippery slope when people start “tweaking” what should be a natural process, as instituted by God. Both the mother and the father have not put much thought into this matter. It seems rather personally, I would wonder how do you go about choosing which of these little humans you kill because it is an inconvenience.

  3. umm…adoption?????

  4. I’m not sure the guy should be given ANY of the Babies. Anyone who thinks he can engineer buying TWO Babies but has THIS kinda fit over a THIRD one sounds a little mentally imbalanced. If the problem was the difference in cost between 2 or 3 Babies,he doesn’t even know what “financial hardship” is yet,that difference will be a pittance compared to everything else.

  5. Here is another article that proves that women are not the ones who benefit from abortion. MEN benefit from abortion, not women. And as for Melissa Cook, she is engaging in a kind of prostitution, and so was the doctor who implanted the children.
    Under NO circumstances are we permitted to “play God” in these matters. God is NOT some Cosmic Killjoy who is out to spoil everyone’s “fun”; He Rules against this because this is how people—especially unborn children—get hurt. But some people never learn.

  6. Sweet Jesus! Who does not hear the voice of God within the stirrings of LIFE these days????? It seems like VERY FEW do!!!!!
    For crying out loud (or, For God’s Sake…?) my husband and I even rescued and KEPT two 3-week-old kittens who’d crawled up into the engine block/fan belts/etc of the car—for which we were ONLY alerted by our rescue blonde Lab——We felt only the Lord sent them to us for some reason….AND, we’d NOT even EVER been aware of them without out rescue dog alerting us to them before we used the car……a double message to us….SO….who, on God’s Earth could demand that a child be aborted just because HE/SHE did not “expect” to have more than one or two—-in the course of a multiple egg-surrogate -implant—-(-so, just kill one of them to suit the placed “order)?”
    Please tell me that there is a special HELL for these people b/c we’re not getting very far with them morally or legally on Earth. Their “legal” grounds most often trump any MORAL or HUMANE matters in the last many years (or should I say, the last many POLITICALLY “PROGRESSIVE” years?)

  7. womb for rent…I can’t believe this female has hired out her uterus and treats babies as paychecks instead of human beings who deserve a mother and father. She plans on giving babies to a total stranger…no clue to his background (pedophile, rapist) or anything. I pray for all babies forced into these horrific circumstances.
    It does seem odd that a grown male would go through these extremes to have a baby instead of simply marrying a woman and having children with her.


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