In 1995, a 49-year-old married man and a 22-year-old single woman began a sexual affair in the most powerful room in the world.
The affair was tawdry, involving fellatio, cigar-penetration, anal sex (a little-publicized and little-known fact that is gleaned only if you’ve read the entirety of the Ken Starr Report because that little detail is buried in a footnote), but no vaginal intercourse. You see, the man, being trained in legalistic language-parsing and a narcissist to boot, is skilled in self- and other-deception, rationalizing that the absence of vaginal intercourse meant there was no “sex”.
16 years later, now a silver-maned 65-year-old, the man is still married, his reputation completely recovered, and is lionized as an elder statesman and globe-trotting speaker. He is active in public life, giving speeches, fundraising, and founding charitable organizations, and has spoken at the last six Democratic National Conventions.
The young woman in that scandal of so many years ago never married or even had a long-term love relationship, is now middle-aged and socially shunned.
The man, of course, is former President Bill Clinton, and the woman is Monica Lewinsky.
Sarah Cordes reports, Sept. 9, 2011, for the National Enquirer — the tabloid that was nominated for a Pulitzer because it alone uncovered former Democrat senator and VP candidate John Edwards’ adultery and “love child” — that Lewinsky is living the sad, lonely life of a near-recluse as she struggles to make ends meet, bouncing from New York to Los Angeles, crashing with family and desperately trying to live down her scandalous past.
An “insider” told the Enquirer, “Monica’s self-esteem is at an all-time low. She’s given up her own place, and her handbag line crashed. Now she drifts between the two coasts and toys with ‘projects’ that probably will never get off the ground. She’s alone most of the time and is pretty much a social pariah. She’s given up on ever finding love – and doesn’t even have friends. Monica still feels like she’s the punch line to a dirty joke.”
In late June, the former White House intern made a rare outing as part of a small dinner partyat Lucy’s El Adobe Cafe in Hollywood – where gawkers at other tables let fly with wisecracks.
Let this be a cautionary tale for young women tempted to commit adultery with a married man. It will cost you way more than it’ll cost him. The world is a cruel place where gender and power rule.