How to talk to God

The short answer is: Just talk to Him as you would to a friend.

The long answer is below. 😉

~Eowyn

Why Women Hear God More Than Men Do

Dr. Tanya Luhrmann | Christianity Today | May 7, 2012
Women pray more than men do. The 2008 Pew U.S. Religious Landscape Survey found that two-thirds of all women surveyed pray daily, while less than half of all men surveyed do. The Pew survey was unusually large, accounting for over 35,000 Americans, but gender differences in prayer frequency have been found before (notably by Paloma and Gallup in 1991). In fact, the observation is so common that among evangelicals, we hear it repeated as a cliché.
Why do women pray more? Some argue it’s because women are more conservative, that they stick more to tradition, while others believe it’s because women feel more responsible for their families’ health and well being than men do.
As an anthropologist studying religious behavior, I have a different explanation: Women pray more because women are more comfortable with their imaginations, and in order to pray, you need to use your imagination.
Let me be clear. I am not suggesting that God is a product of the imagination. I am instead noting that to know God intimately, you need to use your imagination, because the imagination is the means humans must use to know the immaterial. […] people who felt comfortable with a back-and-forth conversation with God had learned to have that conversation by using their imaginations. At the beginning, they often said that they were confused by what it meant to listen for God. As one congregant remarked to me, “In the beginning, people would say to me, ‘Do you hear God?’ And I’m like, heck, I don’t know.”
But then these Christians did what their pastor suggested: they set out a (real) mug of hot coffee for God in the morning, and sat down with their own mug, and imagined that they were talking to God. They picked up a sandwich, walked over to the park, sat down on a bench, and imagined that God’s arm was around their shoulders, that they were talking to God as their best of friend. They stood in front of their closet and asked God what shirt they should wear that day. Most of them knew that this was artifice, at least in part, and particularly at the beginning, they were cautious about how seriously to take it. Still, they saw these practices as a technique to listen for God in their minds—to turn their attention away from the outer world and to wait patiently for thoughts that they felt might really be from God. “I try to listen to God in the little things,” one woman told me, “so that I learn to listen to him about the big ones.” After a few months, people would say that they recognized God’s voice in their minds the way they recognized a voice on the phone. “You know it’s your mom when she calls, right?” someone explained. “Well, that’s the way it is with God.”
Our culture raises men to take less joy in the imagination. Men read fewer novels. They play with children less than women do. It is important to understand this difference in socialization because sometimes men who cannot hear God feel like bad Christians. They can feel that God does not love them as much as he loves their wives, even if they know that sounds silly. My work suggests that this has more to do with they way our culture teaches them to use their minds than it does with their inherent worth. It suggests that Christians should nurture men’s imaginations, and that this nurturance will help them to pray more readily, and to know God more intimately as God the Father desires.
Tanya Marie Luhrmann is a professor of anthropology at Stanford University. Her most recent book is When God Talks Back: Understanding the American Evangelical Relationship with God.

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ukagwu
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Reblogged this on Diary of a College Undergraduate and commented:
Sunday special.. Really Inspiring.. ^_^

Mike Griffin
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Mike Griffin

Scripture tells us who God is and tells us how to worship Him. When we use our imagination and disregard scriptures revelation who God is and what He expects of us, we get into trouble. Pray and consider Gods promises and his reply, as for our own good.

Sig94
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Thank you. So many times I feel that I just don’t get it when it comes to prayer. Now is this the definitive answer? Of course not, but it is very insightful and another step in obedience (Phil. 2:12) as we work out our salvation with fear and trembling.

Paul
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Paul

I read the above post. It was good. And I would like to share something about how sometimes God will comfort people. Tracy’s brother died while in the Air Force and here is part of one dream she had. — Then I had a cell phone in my left hand and it had rang. I answered it and said, “Hello?” It was Brian and he said, “Can you hear me, Tracy?” I said, “Brian?! Yes! I can hear you!” He said, “I need you to do something for me… I need you to relax and calm down and go back… Read more »

hrmfc
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hrmfc

I had a very similar experience though a lot less dramatic right after a dear friend died suddenly from a heart attack. Tommy was known to call at odd times to say he was dropping in,etc. I dreamt that he called and when I answered he said,” I just called to let you know I love you!”. My husband and I were unable to attend his funeral and we were feeling quite guilty. The phone call was so real and his voice so clear, I knew it was a gift from our Lord letting us know Tom was okay and… Read more »

Sig94
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My mother-in-law, a beautiful lady, complained of some stomache pain, found out she had pancreatic cancer and just two weeks later was dead. Dear friends of my in-laws held a reception at their house for our family. The brother of one of them (also a close friend of my wife’s mom) approached me, visibly shaken. He said he saw her (my dead MIL) come down the stairs and stop at the bottom. She turned to him and smiled and walked back up the stairs. The man, a no nonsense retired AF Master Sergeant, was literally shaking. I didn’t know what… Read more »

Miranda
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IMO, women also have strong intuition as well.
Love the post Doc! Thank You! Tomorrow I will be fixing 2 cups of hot tea…not just one. What a great idea! 😀

edward oleander
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edward oleander

Eowyn, I think you’re right on about men not being trained or encouraged to use their imaginations. My mother raised me on fables and myths and stories, and had me reading early on, and I think that made a world of difference. Even nearing 50, I play role-playing games that require one to create entire imaginary worlds. I think that DOES relate to prayer. I pray to your God fairly often, and while it isn’t the arm-around-my-shoulder kind of comfortable, it IS in a very natural conversational style. No “thee” and “thy” and “thou,” or humble beseeching. Just one guy… Read more »

edward oleander
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edward oleander

🙂