Couple Has An Open Marriage So Complicated, It's Hard To Keep Track

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HuffPo: Michael loves his wife, Kamala. Michael also likes his 27-year-old girlfriend, Rachel. So six months ago, Kamala decided to do what most wives would never even consider: she invited Rachel to come live with them and their six year-old son.
Monogamy just doesn’t work for the couple, whose relationship is featured on Showtime’s “Polyamory: Married & Dating.”  What does work for them is a polyamorous lifestyle, Kamala and Michael tell Nightline reporter Nick Watt in the report above. (Rachel is not the first person they’ve invited into their relationship during the course of their 12-year marriage; the couple previously shared their home with another couple, and Kamala has been in a relationship with another woman for two years.)
“Monogamy can be a really beautiful agreement between people when they’re deeply in love and they don’t have desire for another,” Kamala says. “But most people in our society are just monogamous because their vows said ‘I will forsake all others.'”
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The trio’s seemingly blissful relationship — they do yoga together, love tantric sex and collectively raise the couple’s son — leaves the Nightline reporter wondering if maybe they’re on to something. With so many marriages ending in divorce — oftentimes because of infidelity — is polyamory the answer to all our divorce woes?
Jenny Block, author of Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage, thinks so. “It’s becoming clear that heterosexual monogamous marriage simply doesn’t work for most people. And I think people are tired of being unhappy and dissatisfied,” she told the Daily Beast earlier this month.
We cannot control our own desires and we certainly cannot control the desires of others,” said Block, who has been in an open marriage for the past 10 years. “You cannot tell someone, ‘Don’t be attracted to anyone else. Don’t desire anyone else.’ You can say, ‘If we’re going to be together, I want it to be monogamous.’ But you cannot control the other person’s heart and mind. The heart wants what it wants.”
Conversations about polyamorous relationship may be increasingly common, but that doesn’t necessarily mean American couples are adopting the lifestyle in large numbers. Pamela Haag, whose 2011 book, Marriage Confidential, included discussions with couples in open marriages, says that by her estimates, only about 5 percent of all marriages meet the definition of “open.”
How insulting to assume that “most people in our society are just monogamous because their vows said ‘I will forsake all others’ and ‘we cannot control our own desires.'”
Yet for some I guess it’s easier to preach moral relativism than actually try and work on a committed relationship or control their zippers.

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0 responses to “Couple Has An Open Marriage So Complicated, It's Hard To Keep Track

  1. Really? Monogamy is Not “monogamous because their vows said ‘I will forsake all others”.
    It is common among humans and animals. I haven’t heard of any animals taking vows.
    The thing is many people are monogamous because they “want” to be. To me, having an open marriage is not only selfish on each participants part, but as a health issue, it is also dangerous. Bringing a disease home to your spouse is the same as abuse.

  2. Since a precedence has been broken thanks to the acceptance of homosexual marriage, the above will no doubt be the next issue to be put to a vote and will further erode our society. After that, then the pedophiles will start to lobby and then your next door neighbor Harry will be wanting to marry his pit bull. A door has been opened and the demons are queuing up even as we speak :(.

  3. “We cannot control our own desires and we certainly cannot control the desires of others,”…..we control ourselves in our marriages through maturity, because we love and respect our spouses, ourselves and Christ. When you have neither, love or respect (which are basically interchangeable), then you don’t have a marriage, you have a situation…a sham of a situation with legal obligations on paper.

  4. My heart aches for the child who gets to see his mother have lesbian relations and his father have relations with women other than his wife…this child has no concept of true love and fidelity between a husband and wife. I consider their adulterous behavior as a form of child abuse.

  5. Immaturity masked in wisdom.

  6. Funny how open-mindedness used to be a virtue. Now it translate to: “do what thou wilt”.

  7. Paging Jerry Springer…

  8. Most people live lives of quiet desperation, or something like that.


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