‘Sugar Daddies’ Cover Debts for ‘Sugar Baby’ Dates
ABC News: Almost anything can be ordered online and then delivered to your house these days, including a beautiful college student, legally, and for the right price. Tommy, 63, and Monte, 21, have been together for two years, and they refer to each other has “sugar daddy” and “sugar baby.” And Tommy has six others.
A retired IT executive, Tommy is thrice divorced and the father of two young adults around Monte’s age. Although he met Monte at a beach party, Tommy said he meets many of his sugar babies on a website called SeekingArrangement.com. It is one of the many “sugar daddy” websites, where men meet and offer “sugar babies,” or young women, financial support in exchange for companionship.
When Monte needs money, Tommy is her go-to guy. He said he drops about $5,000 on her each month, paying her expenses, buying her clothes and taking her out on the town in a chauffeured car. Monte said she uses the money to pay for a college education she couldn’t otherwise afford.
“He’s like, ‘I could help you get through school easy and you just travel with me, have fun, be around me and just keep me company,’ and I said, ‘sure! You’re going to pay for my school?'” Monte said.
Tommy said he retired with enough money to spend about $150,000 a year on his female companions combined. It’s cheaper than marriage, he said, and a small price to pay for what he gets in return.
“When you walk into a room, and you have a beautiful woman with you, it’s a compliment you, as a male,” Tommy said. “It’s like pulling up in a really nice car or something. I hate to compare it that way but it is.”
For Monte, the relationship is valuable because she said she is experiencing new things that she otherwise would never have had the opportunity to try. “[Tommy] taught me how to golf, cook, be a classy woman,” she said. “He’s just transformed me back to something I’ve always wanted to become.”
But Monte admitted there are some drawbacks to her situation with Tommy. “Sometimes it gets to me to know that he is my only way of income and that makes me feel like you know, I’m not really doing anything,” she said.
So how is this legal? The courts have decreed that as long as a woman is being paid for services besides sex, such as “companionship,” the act does not classify as prostitution. That’s the argument that Brandon Wade, SeekingArrangement.com’s founder, also makes. “If the sugar daddy is, in fact, meeting a girl for sex and money, then they’re using website in violation of agreement, which actually prohibits that usage,” he said.
“The sugar daddy and sugar baby relationship is far from prostitution,” he said. “It’s about a romantic relationship between two people. The only difference is a sugar daddy is very wealthy.” Tommy admitted he has sex with all of his sugar babies and that is part of the “big attraction,” but he said he doesn’t see his relationships with them as prostitution.
“If we’re talking about money exchanged for sex, I don’t see that this way. It’s just not a ‘wham, bam, thank you, ma’am,'” he said. “You pay somehow, somewhere for sex no matter what it is. You know, they say wives do it for refrigerators.”
“There are sugar babies on different levels,” Tommy said. “You know, you’ve got your Wal-Mart sugar babies and then you got your Neiman Marcus sugar babies, and it’s which ones you want to shop at.”
Olympia, a 24-year-old, full-time student at a broadcasting school in Denver said she has been a sugar baby since she was 19 and 100 percent of her school fees, which is $15,000 a year, have been paid for by sugar daddies.
“I’ve got my rent paid for up to a year,” she said. “I’ve gotten all the cars I’ve had, have been paid for by sugar daddies. I’ve gotten to go to the Caribbean. I’ve gotten to travel all across the nation. I just got some brand new boobs. Life’s great.”
Olympia said she is a pro at juggling several sugar daddies at a time. She has been seeing one man named Larry, a Mormon from Utah, for almost two years now and said the relationship is the perfect scenario for her because they do not have sex. But she admitted the perks of the sugar daddy-sugar baby relationship come at an emotional loss.
“Sometimes being in a sugar baby-sugar daddy relationship, it does get lonely for me because I can’t always– That person can’t always be there for me,” she said. “[But] they respect me. They let me be myself. It’s the dream.”
I guess if these women and men want to live their lives (such as they are) in this way, have at it. I for one wouldn’t want to be with a man who compared me to a new car. I don’t believe that would make me a very classy woman.