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‘The luckiest man alive’ insists raising a child in a ‘throuple’ is the future of parenting

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Dad, mum and mum and their kids

Because parenting and relationships should be all about logistics that make your life easier so you have time to socialize!

From Daily Mail: When a family announces that it is expecting, it is usually two parents that excitedly break the news. However, for Adam Lyons and his two girlfriends, it’s three parents who are getting increasingly excited about their forthcoming bundle of joy.

Two years ago, Adam Lyons, 36, who is from East London, but now lives in Austin, Texas, was dubbed ‘the luckiest man alive’ because of his unusual living arrangements with his two girlfriends Brooke Shedd and Jane Shalakhova.

At the time, Adam and Brooke had son, Dante, two, together but now the ‘throuple’ are expecting again after Jane fell pregnant. 

The threesome – who share a super-kingsize bed – believe the new baby, due in July, will make their family even more complete. Adam, 36, says: ‘It’s so sweet that we all get to parent and raise the kids together. We have talked about it at length and we all consider ourselves parents to the children. ‘

With the kids, our titles are officially “Dad”, “Mum” and “Mum”. For us, three definitely works better than two.’

In fact the threesome believe their unusual arrangement could be the future of relationships and parenting.

Adam, who runs his own business consulting company Psychology Hacker, says: ‘For us, three people works because it enables us to manage daily life so much better.  So many of our friends are in “normal” two-person couple relationships with kids, jobs and all the other typical responsibilities and I see them struggling to juggle their lives. It’s difficult with two people.  But with three parents, we always have the ability for one person to look after the kids.’

‘As a result, we never begrudge each other anything because we all have lots of time. With three people, it’s logistically so much easier to handle all those things – we share out the responsibilities and it fits our sexual preferences too.’

‘When Brooke, Jane and I first came out about our relationship, we had some criticism and certain people said we wouldn’t last.

But we’ve been going for five years now. What we have is not a fling or a phase, we’re a real family with healthy, happy kids. Our son Oliver doesn’t even recognise what is ‘unusual’ about our family.’

‘This should be the future of relationships, where people are able to enjoy love in any way they feel works. Three people and three parents makes so much sense to us.’

Indeed pregnant mother, Jane, 27, says that she never wanted children until she realised how much easier it was with three parents. Jane, who also works with Adam in his business consulting company, explains: ‘When I had boyfriends before, I never wanted or cared about kids. Growing up, I always thought that when you had a baby, you became a slave to your child. You see a lot of parents struggling. But raising Dante with Adam and Brooke and watching him grow up with three parents around – I realise we could do it as a family. With three parents around, it’s so doable.’

With three parents, we can still have a social life, make time for one another and share the parenting tasks so you don’t end up like the typical sleep-deprived mum! With two partners, there’s so much help and I’ll never have to leave my kids with someone I don’t trust.’

Bisexual Brooke, 28, – who also has son, Oliver, 7 from a previous relationship – says: ‘I’m so excited for Jane’s pregnancy – I love talking to her bump. I’ve always wanted four sons so this is a dream come true. ‘I think our good parenting is one of the sexiest things about our relationship. It’s incredible to see them Adam and Jane with the kids and how we share all the responsibilities.’

‘We definitely want a few more kids and I would love to have a wedding to show my commitment to Adam and Jane. Oliver says he would like to get married someday too and he knows three people can be really happy together in a relationship. We’re setting a good example.

Adam, Jane and Brooke all live together on a large plot of land with two separate houses – one of which they use as an office and one of which Brooke uses as a home school where she plans to teach all the trio’s children.

Bisexual Jane says: ‘We love living and working together – the family house is a one-minute walk from our office. Adam and I can have meetings in the office and head back home for lunch with Brooke and the kids. It allows us to spend more time together. I love coming home and getting a kiss from Brooke, Dante and Oliver!

‘My pregnancy was a planned one. We were trying for a baby – it just felt like the right time and parenting together as a threesome is a lot of fun.’

Read the rest of the story here.

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Polygamous family from TV’s ‘Sister Wives’ take their fight to legalize ‘multiple marriages’ to Supreme Court

I will not be surprised if this eventually becomes another legal right in the US. After all, #loveislove.

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From the Daily Mail: The polygamous family from TV’s ‘Sister Wives’ will take their fight to legalize polygamy to the U.S. Supreme Court, their lawyer said on Friday.

Kody Brown and his four wives say that polygamous marriages can be just as healthy as monogamous unions, and they argue a Utah law that makes plural marriages a felony violates their right to freedom of speech and religion.

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Attorney Jonathan Turley decried an appeals court decision that threw out the Browns’ challenge to the law. The judges decided the Browns can’t sue because they weren’t charged under the law, so they didn’t consider the constitutional issues.

Turley said an investigation by local authorities after the Brown’s reality TV show ‘Sister Wives’ premiered nevertheless amounted to government abuse. Though the investigation was closed without filing charges, the Brown say they had to flee the state and the threat of prosecution still hangs over their heads.

A federal judge sided with them and overturned key parts of the state’s bigamy law in 2013, but an appeals court overturned that decision in April. The appeals court refused the Browns’ request to reconsider the case in an opinion handed down Friday.

Utah Attorney General Sean Reyes (a republican) has pledged to leave polygamists alone unless they break other laws.  But he argues the state still needs the ban to go after polygamists like Warren Jeffs, who serving a life prison sentence for sexually assaulting girls he considered wives.

A spokesman for the Reyes declined to comment on the ‘Sister Wives’ appeal. The family’s lawyer didn’t immediately say when the appeal might be filed.

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Why more women are letting their husbands cheat

Count me out of this “fascinating trend.”

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Via NY Post: Thrashing out the details of their new marriage contract with online relationship coach Suzie Johnson, the wealthy couple who have been wed for 12 years leave their hourlong Skype session feeling satisfied. The husband agrees they can have a fifth child — while the wife consents to an infidelity clause allowing him to cheat with other women on a strictly annual basis.

“They agreed to a weekend amnesty, where the guy can do what he wants for just one weekend a year,” recalls Johnson, who runs the Dallas, Texas-based goasksuzie.com. “In return, she gets the bigger family she craved.”

It’s increasingly common in her practice as a growing number of women agree to “widen their monogamy boundaries” and embrace a marriage of convenience, where it’s just the husband who strays rather than an open marriage where both sides cheat.

It’s a fascinating trend that came into the spotlight this week with the death of 75-year-old Linda Jones, superstar Welsh singer Tom Jones’ long-suffering wife, who put up with his legendary philandering for 59 years.

Masha Lopatova and her husband Andrei Kirilenko

Masha Lopatova and her husband Andrei Kirilenko

Well-known public figures in similar situations include, most famously, presidential candidate Hillary Clinton, as well as Masha Lopatova, spouse of former NBA player Andrei Kirilenko. The mother of four admitted in 2006 that she sets the 6-foot-9 Russian-born athlete “free” once a year so he can sow his wild oats.

Citing 2013 study research that shows more than 50 percent of marriages survive infidelity, Johnson explains: “Fifteen years ago, having an affair would be a deal-breaker, but people now realize that it’s not the end of the world. It’s tough in the initial stages, but many see it as an opportunity to make a fresh deal. The more invested you are in your marriage — whether because of love, lifestyle, finances, children or a combination of those things — the more likely you are to make compromises [such as allowing the husband to cheat] to anchor the commitment.”

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Rather than taking the open-marriage route popular in Europe, in America, it’s usually a case of “don’t ask, don’t tell,” where the wife turns a blind eye to the man’s peccadilloes. Another option, as psychotherapist Joe Kort asserts, is the “eyes wide open” approach that involves a written contract full of rules.

“For example, the woman might agree that the man can attend BDSM play parties once a month or have oral sex — not penetrative sex — once a week, so long as he has blood tests every three months,” says Kort, of Detroit, who often advises clients in mixed-orientation marriage — with one straight spouse and one who’s gay.

Pittsburgh-based former HR executive Sophie, 61, who asked that her last name be withheld to protect her privacy, fits into that category. When her physician husband admitted to a same-sex fling during a business trip in 2006, she remained by his side. “He said it was a mistake, and he was confused by his sexuality,” Sophie tells The Post.

Then, two years ago, he dropped the bombshell that he now considered himself gay and was actively seeking other partners. “When it first happened, I thought I was going to lose my mind,” admits Sophie, who last had sex with her husband in the fall. “But, with help from Joe [Kort], we’ve figured out our arrangement.”

The couple, who have no kids, recently bought an apartment in New York City to serve as the husband’s love nest. Other times, Sophie visits the condo when she wants to catch a Broadway show.

So what made her decide to stand by her man? “We’re still very much in love and we have a rich history together,” says Sophie, who has been married for 33 years. “My parents are elderly, and I don’t see any point in telling them and hurting them by getting divorced.”

Other factors include the duo’s comfortable lifestyle in the Pennsylvania countryside and their devotion to their two dogs. But it’s been a difficult road, especially after Sophie confided in her sister and a rigidly Christian friend. “They are very judgmental and think there is only room for two people in a marriage,” she says. “But, as Joe counsels me, you get to write your own story, and nobody can tell us how to live our lives.”

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More than half of Muslims want gay sex to be outlawed and nearly a quarter support areas of UK being run under sharia law

Let’s see the proggies try and defend this.

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From The Daily Mail: British Muslims disagree with the rest of the country on a range of key issues such as sexuality, freedom of speech and polygamy, according to new research. A poll carried out by ICM discovered that more than half of Muslims disagree with homosexuality being legal in Britain, while a quarter support Sharia law being introduced into parts of the country instead of British law.

The full findings will feature in a Channel 4 documentary presented by Trevor Phillips, former head of the Equality and Human Rights Commission, on Wednesday. Entitled What British Muslims Really Think, the programme will investigate the ‘split’ between Britons who follow Islam and the rest of the population.

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Among the most startling findings by the research was the attitude of Muslim men and women to the treatment of wives. A third of those polled said it was acceptable for a British Muslim to keep more than one wife, while 39 per cent said wives should always obey their husbands. Nearly half of those questioned said it was unacceptable for a gay or lesbian person to teach their child, with the majority also opposing gay marriage.

Former equal rights chief Phillips, who speaks to several members of the Muslim community on their views during the documentary, states that ‘the integration of Muslims will probably be the hardest task’ the country has ever faced.

He told The Sunday Times Magazine: ‘I thought Europe’s Muslims would gradually blend into the landscape. I should have known better. Britain desperately wants us to think of its Muslims as versions of the Great British Bake Off winner Nadiya Hussain, or the cheeky-chappy athlete Mo Farah. ‘But thanks to the most detailed and comprehensive survey of British Muslim opinion yet conducted, we know that just isn’t how it is.’

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More than 80 per cent of Muslims surveyed said they felt British and were happy living here, yet conceded they were more likely to stay within their own communities, especially when it came to relationships. The ICM figures reported that more than half mix with non-Muslims each day, normally through work or education, but one in five never enter a non-Muslim household.

Phillips, who was head of the equal rights commission from 2006 and 2012, published a report on Islamophobia twenty years ago, in which he underestimated the number of Muslims that would be living in the UK.

Nearly three million Muslims currently call Britain home, half of which were born abroad, while it is projected that at least six million will live in Britain by 2050.  As part of its research, ICM carried out interviews with 1,801 adults compiled from a random sample who categorised themselves as being Muslim.

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UK commits suicide: Muslims with multiple wives to get extra welfare benefits

Polygamy is illegal in the United Kingdom under Section 57 of the Offences Against the Person Act 1861.

But the UK recognizes polygamy if the marriages were in countries where they are legal, i.e., Islamic countries. That means the UK recognizes the polygamous marriages of Muslim immigrants.

And so in 2008, the Blair government gave the go-ahead for husbands with multiple wives to claim extra welfare benefits, so long as the weddings had taken place in countries where polygamy is legal.

As if that isn’t bad enough, a new UK welfare reform will further reward polygamous Muslims with even more welfare benefits.

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The reform is called Universal Credit, a well-intended effort to reform the UK’s broken welfare system where:

  • More than one in four working-age adults in the UK does not work.
  • Some 2.6 million people spent at least 5 years on some form of out-of-work benefit.
  • A fifth of families with children are in poverty at any one time.

Under the new welfare system, additional spouses of polygamous relationships will no longer be recognized. Alas, that new policy has an unintended consequence of actually giving polygamous Muslims even more welfare benefits because those additional wives now can claim welfare as single persons.

Simon Kent reports for Breitbart, Jan. 24, 2016, that at present, a polygamous husband and his first wife receive up to £114.85 in “income support,” while each additional wife receives a reduced allowance of about £40 each. But under the new Universal Credit welfare system, by not recognizing polygamous marriages, a man’s additional wives will each receive welfare as a single person — which is higher than what they now get in reduced allowance.

Meanwhile, as Breitbart London reported, last year Britain’s first female sharia law judge stated that the “government cannot ask Muslims not to have more than one wife”.

At the same time, as reported by the Times newspaper, Britain is experiencing a “surge” in Sharia marriages, as young British Muslims adopt a more hardline religious stance than their parents:

“As many as 100,000 couples are living in such [sharia] marriages, which are not valid under UK law, experts said…. A leading Islamic family lawyer warned that the increase in Sharia ceremonies among the 2.7 million-strong Muslim population in Britain was also behind a growth in ‘secret polygamy’.”

Attorney Aina Khan, an expert in Islamic family law, said that “Probably a quarter of all couples I see involve polygamy issues. There has been a huge rise in recent years because people can have a secret nikah [Islamic marriage] and no one will know about it.”

It has been claimed that Muslim men in Britain are having up to 20 children each because of polygamy and the rise of “religiously-sanctioned gender discrimination” under Sharia Law. Under Universal Credit, there will be more welfare benefits for those children, in addition to existing welfare called Child Benefit:

The Government is committed to providing the financial support less-well-off families need to cover children’s living costs. We will therefore include fixed amounts within Universal Credit to provide for these costs. The amounts will be based on those currently provided through Child Tax Credit. They will be additional to Child Benefit.

What all of this points to are the following truths:

  1. Immigrants to a country that provides generous welfare benefits will take advantage of the generosity.
  2. Countries with welfare attract immigrants from poor countries.
  3. Immigration (legal or illegal) therefore is incompatible with welfare. A country that offers both is courting financial ruin.

That is why Europe is flooded by Muslim “refugees” and “migrants”. A human tidal wave of 400,000 new migrants will arrive in Italy in coming weeks.

That is also why the United States is invaded by illegal migrants from Mexico and, the latest, from Cuba. At least 7,000 Cuban “refugees” are expected at Texas’ Hildago International Bridge in the next coming days.

~Eowyn

Pastor’s wife is perfectly ok with him marrying his pregnant girlfriend

Another wife is just like “having a sister around”….except she sleeps with your husband.

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The LADBible reports on a polygamist family that is making news. Belinda Miller (above left in the picture) is a 44-year-old woman and is married to Thom, a 60-year-old mafia enforcer-turned-pastor. Thom also has a girlfriend, 19-year-old Reba Kerfootruba who is pregnant with Thom’s child. Thom is currently building a house in Ohio with two separate wings–one for each of his wives. The trio plans to raise Thom and Reba’s biological child as a family.

Belinda has decided she was happy enough to share her husband with another woman, each having three days a week with him. Thom has made it clear that he is the only person who can have multiple partners in the relationship.

“The whole situation works for all three of us. I am the only one who is allowed to have more than one partner and both my wives understand and appreciate that. I think polygamy benefits everyone because my wives get to have a much larger family – it means they always have a friend with them. There have been arguments in the past and at times there can be flares of jealousy but we manage to make it work. Sexually I have no preference and look forward to my time alone with both wives,” Thom Miller told the Barcroft Media.

Thom and his newest bride

Thom and his newest bride

Belinda seems to not mind the presence of Reba and doesn’t see her as a threat.

“I wanted to have more of a family – having another lady in the house not only makes our family whole but individually it’s a beautiful thing because it’s like having a sister around. Thom is the love of my life and Reba is the blessing of my life so it all works.” She told Barcroft Media

And the pastor believes his lifestyle fits perfectly within Christianity:

I don’t preach about polygamy but I feel it is a very Christian lifestyle. I have no problem with homosexuals but I think it’s wrong that their marriage is now recognized by the state but my second marriage is not. I’m going to try and fight the bigotry of that – this is America and my wives and I have the right to live anyway we please – providing we’re not hurting anybody.”

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UK’s Green Party supports polygamy

Don’t say we didn’t warn y’all about that slippery slope!

Federica Cocco and Anna Leach report advocate for the UK Mirror, May 1, 2015, that “It took decades but eventually gay marriage was legalised here in the UK. So what’s next? How about three-way unions?”

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Natalie Bennett, the leader of the Green Party, was asked if the party would do anything to further the rights of people in three-way relationships, specifically allowing them to marry. Bennett said the Greens would be up for legalizing three-way marriages.

Note: Natalie Bennett is a journalist, originally from Australia, who is the leader of the Green Party of England and Wales since 2012. Her partner is Jim Jepps, a left-wing activist who is a former member of the Socialist Workers Party.

The very objective journalists Federica Cocco and Anna Leach continue that “In fact allowing three way marriages would solve several of Britain’s big social problems” — those of housing, “your children’s university fees,” and “in-work poverty,” i.e., the working poor.

But the very objective journalists Federica Cocco and Anna Leach concede that polygamy, which the very objective journalists Cocco and Leach prefer to call “polyamorous unions” (because it’s all about “love”!) “might be a bureaucratic and legal challenge, if the Greens ever manage to get it passed.”

For one, polygamy, oops, “polyamorous unions” presently are illegal in the UK.

But if polygamous Brits were to move to one of the following countries colored black in the map below — all Muslim countries — with an employment or student visa, then “congratulations! You’re a legally recognised polyamorous household.”

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But wait.

There’s still a problem!

“This means when you claim Income Support, Jobseeker’s Allowance, Employment and Support Allowance, Pension Credit and Housing Benefit as a three-way married partnership . . . you don’t get as much money“! Because “These benefits are only payable for wives residing in Great Britain.”

That’s what Chris Grayling, then-Conservative Minister for Employment (damn those Conservatives!), told Parliament in 2011.

There are other problems still:

  • A wife in a polygamous marriage currently doesn’t have the right to a state pension on the basis of her spouse’s contributions.
  • “Mainstream” tax doesn’t recognize polygamous unions.
  • Universal Credit rules will not recognize additional partners in polygamous relationships.
  • The new Marriage Allowance provides a tax break only for married couples and civil partners.

Lastly, super objective journalists Cocco and Leach admit that the greatest challenge to legalizing polygamy is that “people will oppose it.”

Why?

“Because people love to get involved in and legislate others’ private lives,” that’s why.

But those busybody “people” evidently are not the Mirror‘s readers. The “report” by Cocco and Leach includes a poll at the end: “Do you think polyamorous marriage should be legal?”

As of yesterday evening, the poll results are 55% yes; 45% no.

Next on the culture-destroyers’ agenda: Legalize pedophilia and bestiality!

Why?

Because it’s all just about “love”. /sarc

~Éowyn