I wrote about the 11-year-old boy who is starting a sex change. Also the 4-year-old boy’s desire to dress up as a princess for Halloween. Now another story about a 7-year-old boy who wants to be a girl.
Girl Scouts Rejects, Then Accepts, Trans Kid
Edgeboston.com: The Girl Scouts has courted controversy by initially refusing membership to a transgender child, though that stance was later reversed. “Bobby identifies as a girl, and he’s a boy,” the mother of the 7-year-old, Felisha Archuleta. Archuleta told the news station that her child, Bobby Montoya, who was born anatomically male, had identified as a girl since about age 2.
Archuleta indicated that Bobby’s family has dealt with the child’s gender expression by doing what medical authorities recommend: Allowing Bobby a choice of clothing, among other gender identity markers. Archuleta told the media: “He’s been doing this since he was about 2 years old. He’s loved girl stuff, so we just let him dress how he wants, as long as he’s happy.”
But not everyone is prepared to accept that a child built like a boy can be a girl psychologically. Bobby has encountered bullying at school; he told the media that “It hurts me and my mom both” when people make disparaging remarks. (I just want to note here: kids can be cruel in school. Doesn’t matter what you have going on – overweight, pimples, skinny, freckles, etc. – you will undoubtedly get teased and /or bullied.)
The issue of transgender kids is a complicated one, as Archuleta discovered when she took Bobby to join the Girl Scouts. Bobby ’s older sister had already joined up, and Bobby was excited to follow suit. The individual with whom Archuleta interacted refused Bobby membership in the Girl Scouts.
“I said, ’Well, what’s the big deal?’ ” Archuleta recounted. “She said ’It doesn’t matter how he looks, he has boy parts, he can’t be in Girl Scouts. Girl Scouts don’t allow that [and] I don’t want to be in trouble by parents or my supervisor.’ Bobby expressed dismay, telling the media, “It was like somebody told me I can’t like girl stuff, and I have to change my name to something else.”
But the Girl Scouts quickly issued a statement to indicate that Bobby’s rejection was not a reflection on the organization as a whole–and to announce that the child would be welcomed into the fold after all.
I was a Girl Scout in my youth. I never would have wanted a boy in my group as it was “girl time”. I would have been extremely confused as to why he didn’t join the Boy Scouts. I wonder how these Girl Scouts will feel?
And I do have to wonder, in all the cases I wrote about – including this one, the fathers appear to be MIA (they are not mentioned in the articles).