Expert who throws swingers parties insists EVERY couple would be happier if they abandoned monogamy

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Pleasure Professor Louise Van Der Velde who wants everyone swinging together

Speak for yourself.

From Daily Mail: Fidelity is upheld as the gold standard for a happy marriage. But according to Harley Street relationship counsellor Louise Van Der Velde involving other people in your intimate life could be the key to a healthy relationship.

The 42-year-old widowed mother tells FEMAIL she believes ‘everyone should swing’ to save their long-term relationships. Louise, who is known as the ‘Pleasure Professor’, hosts two-day seminars for ‘rich, good-looking couples’ – often culminating in group sex on plush cushions – in a London hotel for around 70 selected people at a time. ‘If I had my way the whole of society would be swinging together,’ Louise says.

‘We have an image of sex with strangers as sleazy and dirty, but this is about getting back to soul truth, that no one owns anybody else, we don’t own our partners.’

The relationship counsellor, who broadcast her theories during a recent appearance on Micky Flanagan’s show, Thinking Out Loud, adds: ‘It’s about stopping jealousy and replacing fears with love.’

Louise, originally from Harrogate, Yorkshire, has been in open relationships on-and-off since her doctor husband died 13 years ago. The mother-of-two, who has a son, 20, and daughter, 15, splits her time between Camberley, Surrey, and Marbella, where she initially hosted smaller, ‘celebrity attended’ sex parties.

She argues sex with strangers will create a marriage no one would want to leave.  ‘Doing this stops infidelity,’ she says. ‘If you explore your desires together, any fear about your other person cheating goes. After our work together couples often go and play and experience things together. Why on earth would you think of having an affair when you have a relationship like this?

The sex guru invites single women as well as couples to the events, which involve a 70 per cent to 30 per cent ratio of women to men, ‘to ensure it does not become a sausage fest’.

The invites are also based on couples’ desires. ‘Most couples want a threesome with another woman,’ Louise explains.  ‘The people who come are affluent, good looking, professional couples. They are young – I don’t accept anyone over 45, and are mostly around 30 to 45.

Participants, who are also vetted for attractiveness and reasons for attending before being accepted, then embark on 48 hours of tantric touching, phallic meals, emotional workshops and unleashing the ‘kundalini serpent’ of sexual desire.

Louise, who believes monogamy is a ‘lie’ sold to society as a whole, insists her sex parties are not purely about lust. She argues they ‘deepen the connection’ between couples – and successful pairs even leave with a certificate.

‘In the seminar we start off very gently, we look at where people got their beliefs from about why they are monogamous. Mostly it’s a limiting belief. An “I got married so I expected to have sex with one person”, or “it’s what society and marriage say you should do”.

‘I loosen up this belief by going back to very first time they were sold the lie about being monogamous – which can be as early as when they were seven or eight years old.’    

Louise says her own children know about and are comfortable with her work. She explains: ‘They have very much been brought up to be mindful with sex. They are both selective about who they engage with and are well balanced. I have taught them the opposite of what society does, that sex is not taboo.’

The sex guru, who has appeared regularly on This Morning and Lorraine, says her seminars culminate in, optional, sexual experiences in a ‘comfy, cushion-lined, candlelit separate space’.

Read the rest of the story here.

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29 responses to “Expert who throws swingers parties insists EVERY couple would be happier if they abandoned monogamy

  1. Of course Louise Van Der Velde would say that, otherwise she would not have a thriving business. As for her title “relationship counselor,” it’s nothing but a euphemism for “promoter of adultery”. She provides “couples” who frequent her “swing parties” (another euphemism) with the rationalization for their adultery.

    Therapists disagree. They say “open marriages” or polyamory are a recipe for hurt, disappointment, jealousy, and breakups. Not to mention STDs.

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    • I fully agree with you. I see nothing but a damaged marriage after this. Despite the fluff she panders around, she sounds like a failure.
      And the diseases out there today are not all curable. No thanks.

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  2. Left/libtard family-destroying progtardery and/or watching too much porn with this one, either way it’s the same– self-destructive for people.

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    • Next they’ll say it’s bad to keep little kids out of R rated movies. I think they already teach Sex ed in Sweden to 5 year olds. The British royalty has been pushing to lower the age of consent to age 4, there was some relative of that wicked queen that allegedly was trying to do that.

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  3. Sex is not taboo. Sex with strangers is taboo. I’m reminded of Paul Harvey’s 1965 missive ‘If I were the Devil’ (look it up, it’ll give you chills). The “Diseases for which there is no cure” line comes to mind. Sex with many partners is like Russian roulette. Eventually you loose. Big-time.

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  4. Helene Pineau

    Diabolical double-speak – saving a relationship by being unfaithful to one’s spouse is a contradiction in terms. My how these empty people are being used by the enemy – they have no idea what awaits them unless they repent before meeting their Maker.

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  5. Such open marriages are a local form of globalism for individuals who would otherwise be committed to the care of one other human being and the children they are to produce. With village or state or global responsibility, society is destroyed, and functionaries, having concern for merely their own positions of advancement and lacking interest in basic matters, would manage those beneath them with dedication only to superiors. Such global rulers will have disregard, even contempt, for those beneath them. That would lead to a brutal demonstration of absolute corruption through absolute power.

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  6. If you get rid of monogamous relationships then you also destroy the basis of the meaning of COUPLES! Then we are no better than dogs that screw anything near us.

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  7. Typical Satanic inversion of values. Right is wrong, wrong is right. Her and those
    “beautiful” couples are courting damnation. Guaranteed that in the not so distant future all that hot loveydoveyness turns into jealousy, rage, boredom, divorce, and disease. One is reminded of E. Michael Jones quote in DIONYSOS RISING: “Modernity is rationalized sexual misbehavior. Reason is extinguished; passion is exalted in its place.”

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  8. Most relationships (aka marriages) break up due to someone cheating on the other spouse. Sorry, but you can’t just ‘turn off’ jealousy. She’s trying to take the real feelings and caring out of relationships by promoting orgies. If you don’t ‘care’ about your partner, then it’d be easy to have a fling with someone else.
    It says it in the Bible, in later times they (those who do what satan wants) will destroy marriage.

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  9. “…her own children know about and are comfortable with her work.”

    R-i-i-i-ght. Like in divorces, I’m sure they had a say this this mess.

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  10. Oh, Fer Sur! GO ASK SNL comedian Phil Hart how THAT worked out, Ha! Ha! Ha! (in his trademark sarcastic laugh).
    Well, one thing’s certain: CAVEAT EMPTOR applies very plainly here. As W.C. Fields said, “You cannot cheat an honest man.”

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  11. An internet search of photos of STDs enlightens one as to what these individuals promote. They then want others to pay for their medical choices while homelessness and other diseases are rampant.

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  12. As always, the opposite of this satanic lie is true: swinging will further erode any relationship. Mass cuckery is simply imbecilic.

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  13. This comment by iconordic, extolling open marriage/swinging/wife-swapping adultery has been deleted because it pollutes Fellowship of the Minds, a Christian conservative blog. Henceforth, reader iconordic is not welcome here and all his future comments will be banned.

    Dr. Eowyn
    Owner, FOTM

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  14. Swingers parties are a good source of exterminating cockroaches. All it takes is one swinger with a “killer bug” and they’ll all be departed.

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  15. traildustfotm

    Pardon me while I puke.

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  16. If my brother suggested anything like that to my SiL, his casket would have to be closed during his funeral.

    LOL – There wouldn’t be enough left of him to see. 😉

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  17. high priced skank zionist jew

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  18. There are many, many Zionists and Jews who are good people and not “skanks” and many, many anti-Zionism Gentiles who are. Whatever Louise is, her ways are destructive to any good society.

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  19. she looks and sounds like a female who is in a lot of pain/misery and uses sex to bury that pain/misery…like an alcoholic uses alcohol to bury pain….
    this “deathstyle” will only bring her to ruin both physically and spiritually.
    unfortunately, there are too many people today who reject Jesus and bury their anger and sadness in sex, drugs, gangs….they live in darkness and unless they repent, accept Jesus as Lord, and allow the Holy Spirit into their hearts, their existence will remain in darkness.
    misery loves company…for a reason

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  20. No thanks to this woman’s vile ideas She is a sad excuse for a human being. She needs to use the internet to educate herself. What she and people like her don’t know is that multiple sex partners is a recipe for illness. It is known that if you have multiple sex partners that you will be at a huge risk for things like cancer of the uterus etc. Look it up people. Lets see where she is at when her immune system starts to wind down with age.
    I predict she will not be in a happy place.

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  21. They exclude people who aren’t rich or good enough looking? I thought that was discrimination, when they claim to be so open.
    It basically is cheating, only it’s blatant instead of a secret. And maybe the partner agrees with it, at first. That’s the only difference(s). Except this is probably worse since it condones and encourages the behavior.

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  22. Might as well promote daily doses of arsenic to extend life. Time was, nutcases like her were relegated to the sub basement. Time to return them there.

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  23. I’ve never seen a sweet-looking swinger. They always have evil in their eyes.

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