The problem with today’s generation…avoidance of learning a real life skill

They believe the key to acting like a grown up is purchasing roadside assistance coverage instead of actually learning how to change a flat tire. Ugh…

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17 responses to “The problem with today’s generation…avoidance of learning a real life skill

  1. Between operating my Landscape Design/Build businesses in Berkeley, CA and in British Columbia, as well as creator of, then developing the largest retail & wholesale nurseries in South-Eastern BC, teaching at vocational colleges and adult learning programs, I’ve encountered hundreds of young adults struggling to make sense –never mind something of value– of their evolving lives.

    Before we condemn them as lacking the backbone & gumption we had when we were fifty years younger, have we really understood the crucial differences in their era and the ones we experienced? I think a huge amount of this can be found in how their families were involved –or not!–, the communities they lived in, and educational experiences they had.

    In my youth –1953 to 1963– I emerged at 20 and expected to ‘settle down’. We could do so in large part because our material & social worlds were vastly smaller and less complex than today’s young moderns engage. No cell phoney [sic] necessity, social media was hanging w/friends at school, and jobs were available if one made half an effort. Our parents were made of stern stuff: if we didn’t apply ourselves in an acceptable manner, we got the tender mercies of a father’s loving boot or strap. Today’s parents would be jailed for the same, but: we were out our house-nest PDQ!

    I rejected my harsh Old World upbringing when raising my 3, now healthy & positive adults. However, they lived in rural situations which are more ‘down to earth,’ usually in settings where one did chores & other contributions in addition to getting an income. How many youth have that range of possibility? I think not many, not half.

    And our education was nuts & bolts, so to speak, compared to today’s social messaging [sic], much of which my wife & I did not approve of in it’s overly comfortable ways of encountering, then creating one’s world. Some was great, as Canada usually presents social basics in more traditional ways, so youth accepts they have responsibilities and MUST accept consequences. And we’re still a predominantly Christian-values nation in all the best ways.

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    • Joseph . . . I you have brought out some extremely important points regarding today’s young people, as opposed to those of us whole grew up in the 1950-1960’s. We are definitely comparing apples to oranges. I think one thing that has had a horrible influence on our society is the introduction of the “Welfare System” wherein we take care of all these single mothers, rather than teaching young woman to abstain from taking upon themselves the problems inherent with having a family without a husband and Daddy around to shoulder the responsibility. Once we started “paying” mother’s to have children without a bread winner, we got more and more and more of the same. . . with no end in sight.

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    • Excellent Joseph,
      We were so very lucky to have a real childhood. We were able to run free and take off on bikes or horses. All the neighbor’s were our parents. Everyone knew everyone and watched out for each other.
      Now, parents are happy to let computers and phones be the parent. There is very little social interaction at all. They lack social skills.
      Now, people are not letting their kids be kids. They put too much importance on kids starting at the age of three for pre school. When are kids allowed to even experience being a kid.
      And the number of children with social problems and autism and on drugs of every level is so disheartening.
      The kids being prepared for nothing. Nowadays, I feel college might not be the answer for so many. Look at what they are producing and parents no longer recognize their kids.
      I wish many would consider to go to trade schools and enter professions that will always be needed and pays well. Many could end up being their own boss.

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    • I hear ya’ Joseph!!! Today’s kids really are NOT learning life skills…and IMO, it’s b/c it is NOT coming from home….and we teachers have only so much time in a day to fulfill our teaching contracts—to teach the standards, test them, evaluate, report, handle classroom activities & behavior, keep contact with parents when needed and so on….let alone go deeply into the “parenting thing.” But “parenting” and “home” has changed, for many social and economic reasons we don’t have time to go into here. And, what happens to me on almost on a daily basis to prove this is that a student will come & bring me down to Earth…this JUST happened to me for the bazillionth time in my teaching career on Friday: a beautiful girl (inside and outside beauty) came to me after class to share joyfully that she was, for the FIRST TIME in her 13 years going to meet her father. He is a native Mexican, and a prisoner in Mexico due to drug charges. They’ve never met, though they’ve known of each other. What do I say to THAT??? I supported her joy…but inside, I was crushed that this had been her burden for 13 years…and I am also wary of where this contact might go into the future in her most vulnerable/impressionable years ahead. These sorts of stories and variations have overwhelmed me throughout my entire career in teaching. In my whole lifetime in a modest lower-middle-class home on the East Coast, I NEVER knew anyone who’d been to prison…or a child whose parent was jailed…..I never EVEN saw a stray dog or cat (every DAY here in the West…”stray kids” and stray pets/wild-born cats/dogs)…Our kids today are growing up with “things” like cell phones and brand-name sneakers and jeans…or at least, knock-offs…..but the world they live in so far as parenting goes can be BRUTALLY desolate. The adults around them are often so unstable that, when I expect homework to be done….and it never is….and THEN, I find out things like this or WORSE…..(also—I find out about the great number of GRANDPARENTS who are raising their grandchildren with legal custody…) I realize that I might be expecting to get blood from a stone……and it might even be “OK.” Maybe the most important thing is to JUST PLAIN KEEP THE KID IN SCHOOL until age 18.

      I raised a foster daughter from about age 15-on…and we had many a’ heart-to-heart talk before we sent her off to college…and the one that I STILL CRY about when relating to others is the time she told me (when I asked her why she’d done so well in school…even when homeless…even when her heroin-addicted parents disappeared for days, leaving her & 2 younger siblings ALONE……) that she’d NEVER EVER miss school…even if she had a raging fever or was sick….b/c at school, she was SAFE. She had food. She had people who looked out and cared for her….she was stable and knew what to expect everyday at school.

      So….when I really get “down” about my job and feel so terminally tired and think about retiring from teaching…..I know that teachers made a life-changing difference to at least ONE person that I can testify to. And that’s enough to keep me going.

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  2. Today’s generation cares more about manscaping than learning how to change oil and flat tires.

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  3. Of course,back in the 50’s and 60’s,it was more essential to learn how to deal with LIFE from a logical viewpoint. That same situation would have them just getting to work changing the tire,which they learned ad nauseum because Mom and Dad wouldn’t okay new tires until the current ones were worn OUT, (And THEN they had to do WORK to earn the money for them.) and going on their way. If the spare was flat,it would have been, “I saw lights at that place a couple of miles back-I’ll walk back and see if they’ll help.” (They very likely would.) It’s a shame these youngsters can’t be made to live by the ways of our Generations-THAT was a lot of what helped us become Survivors rather than Victims,which most kids today are convinced they are.

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  4. I get your point but, even if you know how to change a tire, having roadside assistance can still be a good idea. I have AAA and there’s been at least three occasions in the past 10-12 years I had to use them. None of those incidents was for a flat tire though. There are times the battery goes dead or timing belt breaks, something that isn’t as ‘easily’ fixed on your own. And as a female, I’m not necessarily skilled in most car stuff. But I do know some and want to learn more about other life skills like sewing, cooking and things like that.

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    • I concur roadside assistance is good. Yet the ad specifically focused on changing a tire. Changing a tire is a basic skill most every car driver should be able to do, especially an able teenage boy.

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  5. I came of age in the 80’s not that long ago I dont think, and almost all the guys at the very minimum knew how to change a tire, I mean its not rocket science but sadly the new generations eschew anything that could possibly put a callus on their hands so they never learn how. Thats what makes me laugh about these faggy antifa kids who cant fight their way out of a paper bag who fantasize themselves as warriors of their movement and never served in the military I might add. These pussies run when confronted with the least resistance. I look forward to their further public humiliation like recently at Berkeley..

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  6. If you’re not a robot and want to learn a skill for a job that actually exists, Mike Rowe Work Ethic Scholarship Program is accepting applications now through May 19th. Apply at…

    http://profoundlydisconnected.com/scholarship/

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  7. Many suburban parents feel responsibility hurts their child’s “potential” and they should be kept from learning anything practical… before they’re hired for that prestigious “good” job for “likeability” (where they can figure out how to apply all those great things they got in college by osmosis) of course.

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