Millennials continue to fail at relationships with ‘cushioning’

time-magazine-millennials_500A far cry from the “Greatest Generation.”

From Fox News: Millennials have found a new way to sabotage relationships.

“Cushioning” is a newly coined dating term wherein a partner in a monogamous relationship still flirts with other people — so if their main relationship goes kaput, there’s a backup ready.

“I was seeing someone for a few months and it was going well, but it felt like the dust had started to settle a bit,” Anna, a cushioner who didn’t want to disclose her full name for personal reasons, told the Tab. “I still liked him, but wasn’t entirely sure I wanted him to be my boyfriend and was in limbo. Instead of talk about it, the rational thing to do was to go back on Tinder and find some more boys to chat to, just in case the current one fell through.

Another cushioner, Lauren, said that she was still messaging lads while “hooking up” with her steady. “It was always awkward when their names would light up my phone while I was sleeping over [my boyfriend’s] place, but I felt like I needed them as an insurance policy,” she told the Tab.

Meanwhile, Rosie believes cushioning lets her channel her neurosis on guys she’s not that interested in, while still keeping her cool with her main flame. “When I really like a guy, I find a ‘B team’ guy to keep on the side to channel my crazy,” Rosie told the Tab. “I go on dates with him before I go out with ‘A team,’ literally as a practice round.”

Cushioning is the most recent term young people have come up with to articulate petty dating practices instead of communicating like rational adults.

Previous trends have included “ghosting,” where people gradually stop responding to messages and then disappear on their romantic interests, and “breadcrumbing,” where singles continue to leave traces of hope for dating prospects that they’re not actually that interested in.

First published on the New York Post.


23 responses to “Millennials continue to fail at relationships with ‘cushioning’

  1. What’s next after “cushioning”? What self-indulgent rationale and new synonym Millennials will coin for infidelity and cheating?

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    • Millenials– can’t even cough up any guts when they’re being bad.

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    • Addendum, not just ca. ooops, milenials/lifelong daycare recipiants/satanists/jello heads/teddy bear molesters/crayon suckers/ I just do not know anymore.
      Anyone, Anyone ?


    • I ‘magine it starts with talking to other guys,moves on to talking “explicitly” with those guys,progresses to quickies with ’em,then boyfriend finds out,gets jealous and kicks her to the curb-THERE,she just sabotaged what MIGHT have been a perfect relationship. AND she gets to be considered a slut.

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  2. Among millennials being polyamorous is fashionable. “Cushioning” is
    one variation.

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  3. Didn’t this used to be called being a “player” (as in “hate the game, not the player”) when no-good “dog” guys did it and just “being a ‘ho” for girls?

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  4. While I am sure this is going on, the fact that this piece is coming from another MSM rag, and ” The Tab” whatever that is, should give one pause. I suspect that half of these types of articles are manufactured to create the illusion that “everyone” is doing a certain type of behavior in order to make it more acceptable. Another example of this is all the ridiculous articles in Cosmopolitan that have been running forever on all sorts of debased sexual behavior. Every time I would read one of these articles supposedly penned by some with it, hip young woman who is acting like a slut or worse, I would think to myself, where are they finding these people? Anyway, while yes I am sure this is happening, I think these things are promoted in these articles to effect change within the population- another form of mind control.

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    • Very smart. It’s true, trends are artificially set, and then interested pools of people decide to cling onto them, later influencing others in their wake of idiocy. Just like watching cartoons made for children turned grown men into emasculated basement freaks, this slut propaganda turns young women into shameless “selfie”-interested sociopaths that care very little about the people they manipulate for attention. In turn, the womb turns sour; they never breed, or the birth control and STDs they accumulate in their body damage whatever ability they have to. Our society is possessed by Satan himself, even putting Trump in office didn’t do anything. It’ll only get worse, until there’s a clear, bold line between the person of faith, and the moronic masses that poured away all of their morality for a sense of self-fulfillment in these evil vices.

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  5. Why Don’t People Get Married Anymore?

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  6. This is narcissism, pure and simple. This is how all predatory narcissists function. Perhaps we can call this the bread crumbs of all out narcissism sprinkling down upon the millennials.

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  7. After reading Amy Alkon, The Advice Goddess, for years. It seems people have accepted this as normal behavior. Even people into their 50’s and beyond.
    It is a sad day when a person cannot even be honest to a partner in wanting to break up. They seem to have seperation anxieties or a sense of being a failure if they don’t have someone hanging on to their very word.
    Because of insecurities, they are purposely setting themselves up for failure.
    They will never grow if that is the case.
    Morals seem to be a foreign action these days.

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  8. Where I come from they are called Slut’s
    MEN OR WOMEN but being it’s ca. 20 something boys and girl’s.


  9. I guess things are often not what they appear to be. These terms may be new, but the behavior, to some degree or another, is probably not. It’s just more prevalent because of “social” media.

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  10. I have to confess the “ROSIE” story cracked me up. What she is saying is that she has PMS-boyfriends & another “A-list” boyfriend for the rest of the month!

    Great comments by everyone! Yes, Anon, they used to be called Players, moreso men in those days, I think.

    Same Old Sins > New Lingo.

    And Lana nailed it re Manufactured Social Trends. “Women’s” magazines have been duping ladies for 60-70 years & they got more raunchy & materialistic as the decades went by. Ditto Soap Operas.

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  11. I’m overjoyed that the little pissants cannot maintain a relationship, it affords them more of an opportunity to contract ocular herpes and oral gonorrhea.


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  13. This is a trait of people with narcissistic personality disorder.


  14. So, this is nothing new. I encountered this regularly as a young man when I was dating. Hedging their bets, keeping their options open……..


  15. Well I’m a millennial – an older one, born in 1985 – and I’m nothing like this. I assume there are others who aren’t. As a few comments pointed out, this thinking or behavior isn’t new, just new phrasing. It was many Baby Boomers and Gen X-ers who helped make today’s morals, or lack thereof, what they are now. It’s no excuse for millennials, but they didn’t start it.
    Btw my mother is on older end of boomers, born 1946, and my late father born 1940 (unsure what his generation was named). Since I was raised by ‘older’ parents that could have something to do with my beliefs…


    • Thanks, Andi, for reminding us that not all Millennials are lost, and that older generations esp. Boomers, preceded the Millennials in selfish irresponsibility. That being said, we do have data showing that Millennials as a group are even more narcissistic than previous generations and cohorts.


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