I wasn’t offended by his message. Then again, I’m not a raving sex-positive liberal feminist.
From Hollywood Reporter: After a controversial interview earlier this week, Tyrese Gibson has penned a lengthy apology to his female fans.
During a video interview with BET that was published Monday, the Fate of the Furious star delivered a “message to promiscuous women,” where he said, “sluts, skeezers, hoes, tramps and overly aggressive promiscuous women” are “never without a man because they don’t have no standards. They ready to have sex with any and everything that want to have sex with them.” He encouraged single women to “hold out,” not settle and know their self-worth.
He continued, “You have women that are active out in these streets, they going to lunches and dinners every night. Private planes, mega yachts, it’s cracking. They’re never without. However, it comes with a cost, you gonna put a lot of miles on yourself down there, come on.”
The interview garnered instant backlash on social media and, most notably, from talk show host Wendy Williams, with many slamming both Gibson and BET for providing him a platform (BET said the network did not endorse his specific comments.)
In a series of posts to his Instagram account on Friday, the actor and singer offered his “most sincere apology” for the interview, directing his posts to all women.
“Ladies,” he began, “I just got off with my mentor and she just came down on me in a major way, checked me caved my chest in with reality and made it plane… Damn I’ve said some super stupid shit.”
He went onto say his mother taught him better and that it’s not always “what you say, it’s the how we choose to say it.”
“For the record I’m far from a misogynist, a male chauvinist or flat out mean,” he wrote. “My intentions were there but my delivery f—ing horrible. And clearly all the way off. And for that I sincerely apologize to all of the ladies.”
Acknowledging that some of his fans might decide not to forgive him for what he said, he hopes time and consistency will heal all wounds. “Although I’ve been consistently for years speaking on these topics and some of the same words in my message, I have never experienced what I am experiencing right now,” he admitted. “I’ve been getting dragged and feel the heat from my poor choice of words and approach to my messages, trust me… Shit gets real when it goes from a social media dragging to my own wife giving me the side eye and coming at me, even she’s not happy with the way I’ve conducted myself.”
He continued, “I’m not APOLOGIZING in an effort to be politically correct, I apologize as a man first for the things that I’ve recently said about choices women have the right to make, for the terms that I’ve used and the way I’ve come across. I was raised to think and feel certain ways, and I’m learning new things that combat those messages. I am not perfect or all knowing, nor am I the one to claim to be. I’ve learned things through experience which I share, and through these last couple of weeks, I’ve learned a lot through this well deserved internet dragging.
“This is about a man owning up to his actions, taking responsibility, recognizing how to do better, and actually doing better. Ladies you deserve better.”
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