Pathology of the Fatherless

This is how important fathers are:

In America today, “the 30% of children who live apart from their fathers will account for 63% of teen suicides, 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions, 71% of high-school dropouts, 75% of children in chemical-abuse centers, 80% of rapists, 85% of youths in prison, 85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders, and 90% of homeless and runaway children.”

The following essay was written by Mark Alexander of The Patriot Post.

H/t beloved Fellow Tina!

~Eowyn

The Centennial of Father’s Day

And a case study in the fate of the fatherless Barack Obama

Father’s Day was first celebrated the third Sunday in June in the year 1910.

The original observance was in honor of William Jackson Smart, an Arkansas veteran of the War Between the States, who raised a daughter and five sons on his own, after his wife died giving birth to their sixth child. Smart was devoted to his children, as they were to him, and his daughter, Sonora Smart Dodd, wanted to honor her father for that devotion.

Though Mother’s Day had been observed in one form or another for centuries, Fathers Day was a fitting complement, and within a few years following the first ceremony, it became a national rite.

While this first formal recognition came about just a century ago, it was abundantly clear to our Founding Fathers that families with both mothers and fathers were critical to the well-being of children.

John Adams wrote, “The foundation of national morality must be laid in private families…. How is it possible that Children can have any just Sense of the sacred Obligations of Morality or Religion if, from their earliest Infancy, they learn their Mothers live in habitual Infidelity to their fathers, and their fathers in as constant Infidelity to their Mothers?”

His wife, Abigail, wrote, “What is it that affectionate parents require of their Children; for all their care, anxiety, and toil on their accounts? Only that they would be wise and virtuous, Benevolent and kind.”

The vital role of fathers has been extolled throughout history, in virtually every religion and culture. No less, it is now well understood that the foundation of our nation is “laid in private families,” and that this foundation is critical if the next generation is to be “wise and virtuous, Benevolent and kind.”

Unfortunately, there is an epidemic of negligence among fathers today, and consequently (according to the CDC, DoJ, DHHS and the Bureau of the Census) the 30% of children who live apart from their fathers will account for 63% of teen suicides, 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions, 71% of high-school dropouts, 75% of children in chemical-abuse centers, 80% of rapists, 85% of youths in prison, 85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders, and 90% of homeless and runaway children.

The causal link between fatherless children and crime “is so strong that controlling for family configuration erases the relationship between race and crime and between low income and crime,” notes social researcher Barbara Dafoe Whitehead.

More to the point, a counselor at a juvenile-detention facility in California, which has the nation’s highest juvenile-incarceration rate, protested, “[If] you find a gang member who comes from a complete nuclear family, I’d like to meet him. … I don’t think that kid exists.”

Arguably, the vast majority of social problems confronting our nation today originate in homes without fathers, including those without functioning or effective fathers. (It should be noted here that an increasing number of fatherless homes are the result of mothers who separate from fathers without reasonable grounds for severance.)

“Maturity does not come with age, but with the accepting of responsibility for one’s actions,” writes Dr. Edwin Cole. “The lack of effective, functioning fathers is the root cause of America’s social, economic and spiritual crises.”

Of course, there are young people who were raised by a single parent, or in critically dysfunctional or impoverished homes, but who overcame that impediment. Either they were blessed with a parent who, against all but insurmountable odds, instilled their children with the values and virtues of good citizenship or, somewhere along the way, those children were lifted out of their misery by the grace of God — often in the form of a significant mentor who modeled individual responsibility and character.

As a result, they have been empowered to internalize their locus of responsibility, to take responsibility for the consequences of their choices and behavior.

However, the vast majority of those from homes without fathers externalize responsibility for problems and solutions, holding others to blame for their ills, and bestowing upon the state the duty of providing basic needs and, ultimately, of arbitrating proper conduct.

The failure of fatherhood is more than just a social problem; it is a menacing national security threat. The collective social pathology of the fatherless has dire consequences for the future of Liberty, free enterprise and the survival of our republican form of government as outlined by our Constitution.

One may rightly conclude that most “liberalism,” the rejection of Essential Liberty and Rule of Law, is rooted in pathology that runs much deeper than topical ideological indoctrination. Indeed, psychopathology dictates, or frames, worldview, and worldview is manifested in such expressions as political affiliation.

In this respect, the pathology of the Left is transparent.

This pathology tends to result in mental rigidity, fear, anger, aggression and insecurity, the result of low self-esteem and arrested emotional development associated, predominantly, with fatherless households or critically dysfunctional families in which children were not adequately affirmed. Such individuals harbor contempt for those who are self-sufficient for much the same reason. They believe that conforming to a code of non-conformity is a sign of individualism, when it is nothing more than an extreme form of conformism for those who are truly insecure. Though they feign concern for the less fortunate and the primacy of individual liberty, they are ardent statists.

They fear loss because most have suffered significant loss. They often come from socially or economically deprived single-parent homes, though inheritance-welfare trust-babies (see Gore, Kerry, the Kennedys, et al.) manifest similar insecurities about helplessness without external sustenance (their trust funds). They reject individual and social responsibility because such principles were not modeled for them as children — and the generational implications for Liberty are ominous.

Some of the fatherless (or those with ineffectual fathers), seek to compensate for the resulting insecurities through overachievement, which is to say they are case studies of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders — the standard reference used for psychiatric evaluation. These deprived children are relentlessly driven by self-interest, narcissism and visions of grandiosity.

The more notorious of narcissists in the last century include Adolf Hitler, Iosif Vissarionouich Djugashvili (Joseph Stalin), Mao Zedong and Saddam Hussein.

The more seemingly benign of the fatherless in recent U.S. political history include Bill Clinton, Albert Gore, John Kerry, and the textbook case of Barack Hussein Obama.

On the official White House website, the bio for Obama begins, “His story is the American story — values from the heartland, a middle-class upbringing in a strong family…”

That is certainly the image Obama would like to project, but it is most certainly not accurate.

Like so many Leftists, his roots are shallow and broken, and they are in no way a reflection of “values from the heartland.”

“Barry,” as he was called when a youngster, was born in 1961 to Stanley “Ann” Dunham, an atheist anthropologist, and Barack Obama Sr., a Muslim from the Luo tribe in Kenya. When he was just two, Obama’s parents separated and later divorced. Obama’s mother then married another Muslim, Lolo Soetoro, an Indonesian national. Barack took his stepfather’s name and he and his mother moved with Lolo to Jakarta, where he spent four years in local Islamic schools. Ann and Lolo also divorced, but not before sending Barry to Hawaii to reside with his maternal grandparents and attend the exclusive Punahou School.

In those years, young Obama was greatly influenced by others, most notably an avowed Marxist, Frank Marshall Davis, and later a “spiritual mentor,” Jeremiah Wright, who spewed racial hatred.

Often accompanying narcissistic pathology, as in the case of Obama, are strong charismatic abilities, which attract a cult of sycophantic followers, or as Obama put it in the opening pages of his political autobiography, “I serve as a blank screen on which people of vastly different political stripes project their own views.”

It’s no coincidence that Obama’s most loyal constituencies are the product of the social, cultural and economic blight in many urban settings, breeding grounds for legions of disenfranchised Leftists, those who are largely dependent on the state for all manner of their welfare, protection and sustenance.

When campaigning for president, Obama proclaimed, “What Washington needs is adult supervision.” Unfortunately, young Barry never received enough of it himself that he might provide it to anyone else, much less an entire nation.

To be sure, all good-hearted Americans should possess a measure of compassion for young Barry Obama, whose bizarre formative years were marked by complete familial disintegration.

Unfortunately, misplaced empathy has played a key role in his unchecked rapid rise through the ranks to the most powerful political seat in the world — at great peril to the future of liberty. Actions have consequences, and the grossly negligent act of electing a “community organizer” to the presidency — is producing devastating consequences, as even many leftists are now discovering.

So where to go from here?

In regard to fatherhood, the foundational future of our nation will spring from our homes, as John and Abigail Adams understood.

The fate of the fatherless is, at best, a broken heart. At worst, it is the root cause of the social entropy we observe in contemporary American culture, because the fate of the fatherless is directly linked to the faith of the fatherless, their relationship with God the Father. Broken trust with earthly fathers often results in a lack of trust in the Heavenly Father.

On this 100th Father’s Day, we should pay tribute to the irreplaceable institution of fatherhood — and the importance of a father’s love, discipline, support and protection for his children. Every day, those of us who are fathers should encourage other fathers to be accountable for their marriages and children. (For excellent fathering resources, link to First Things First).

There is much that can be done for the fatherless — mentoring through Boy Scouts, coaching little-league sports, teaching in Sunday school, tutoring and volunteering to work with high-risk kids through an inner-city ministry, to name just a few. We, as American Patriots, must bridge the gap for these kids.

As for this publisher, it is a privilege beyond all others to be a husband to Ann and father of three. Indeed, no reward could be greater than the close relationship with my children, and to see their progress as Patriots-in-training — responsible young citizens committed to carrying forward the flame of liberty.

Semper Vigilo, Fortis, Paratus et Fidelis!

Mark Alexander

Publisher, The Patriot Post

4 responses to “Pathology of the Fatherless

  1. Yes, needs to be said!

  2. As members of this blog know, I lean left on many issues. I try real hard to understand your opinions, but somethings escape me.
    My Dad left when I was 7, my Mother never remarried; as a result, I grew up in a very poor household.A working woman in Florida back in the 60′s earned about 50 cents per hr, Mom had three kids to support on that!When I say my Dad left, it’s not because he abandoned us, he couldn’t deal with a psycho wife and her crazy Italian family.I loved my Mother, but she was crazy as a sprayed bug.
    I got into the Boy Scouts at 11, and became a troop leader, I was also a “little brother” in the “Big Brothers” association, my wife and I
    remain close friends of my former “Big Brother” who is now 72 and suffering from Parkinsons.We will be visiting he and his wife in several weeks.They are conservatives.I still love them.
    My wife and I married at 19, and still have a great relationship; her Father’s day present last night blew my mind; That means our sex life is incredible.We are 55.We have a 17 yr. old daughter who is a straight “A” student, and really has her head screwed on right. She holds a second degree black belt in TaeKwonDo, and is the best daughter a father could ask for.
    I could not have attended any insitutite of higher education due to my family’s poverty, but “luckily” ( ain’t it ironic!) I was in a motorcycle accident, which paid for diving school.
    I spent the first several years of married life building a sucessful commercial diving business; by the time I was 23, just four years out of Diving School , I was pulling down $20,000 per month.The work was hard and dangerous, my wife helped with the books, and worked as my “tender” when necessary.
    Mark Alexander with the poor taste to write of the “pathology of the left””mental regidity, fear, anger, aggression, and insecurity” is nonsense!
    Mr. Alexander, or anyone who believes his bloviating, is welcome to come to Orlando and follow me around for a day or a week.
    Beating up on liberals is easy, cause they don’t hit back, anyone with balls is welcome to take me up on my offer.
    I visit this Blog because I don’t understand what makes the “right” tick, but sometimes, y’all get me pissed to no end.
    All liberals are not evil, and all “righties” are not bad or good, we simply “are”.There is no more “pathology” of the left, than there is a pathology of the “right”.I don’t own a gun, but I have plenty of “tools”; the sayin’ goes “any tool is a weapon, depending on how it’s held”.I’ve never been compelled to buy a weapon out of fear.
    We have opinions, that frankly, don’t amount to much in the grand scheme.The “Government” plays “Good cop/ bad cop” while ripping us all off, they change colors like a chamelion, and it don’t mean squatt.”Divide and conquer” has been the system since the rise of the British Empire; they divide us and win!
    To me, I am a citizen of the planet; I’ve been welcomed in Indonesia, Singapore, Jamaica, Dominica, Taiwan, and Mexico.I don’t give a flyin’ fudgsicle what skin color , language, or religion, the people I’ve met were happy to host an American; and the best times I’ve had is when I got down into the local populations; ain’t no fear here Mark.If Muslims were an evil threat, we couldn’t do business with or have alliances with Muslim nations, but we certainly do.Message to Mark; “engage brain before shifting mouth into gear”
    Have a great Father’s Day.
    I raise my glass to Ron Baby, glad you made it to your 70′s. bud……….

    • erinyes,

      Thanks for sharing your life story with us. Not many can do that, especially to folks with whom you do not have a political affinity.

      Having said that, you are confusing empirical generalizations from statistical data with a personal attack on you. Social scientific studies show that growing up without a father or with a bad father (let’s call that “A”) has negative effects on the children (let’s call that “B”). The negative effects are that fatherless children have a higher incidence of teen suicides, juvenile delinquency, high-school dropout, alcohol-drug abuse, rape, imprisonment, homelessness, and runaway from home.

      But the proposition that A leads to B is not ironclad or a perfect correlation. Some people have A, but don’t become B. Some people become B, but don’t have A (i.e., they have good fathers in their lives). In other words, not all fatherless children commit suicide, are delinquent, drop out of school, abuse alcohol/drugs, become rapists or victims of rape, are imprisoned, become homeless, or run away from home. But statistical data tell us fatherless children do have greater tendency to commit suicide, drop out of school, abuse drugs, etc.

      In other words, being fatherless is not 100% DETERMINANT. Those, like you, who are A (fatherless) but not B, prove that one is not automatically doomed by virtue of being fatherless. Seems to me the quality of parenting from the mother is also extremely important. A good mother or some other parent-like adult(s) can make up for an absent father.

      I don’t believe Mark Alexander was condemning the fatherless children. He was condemning those men who are mere sperm-donors instead of real fathers.

      Lastly, neither I nor the regulars of this Conservative blog regard all liberals as evil and all conservatives as good. Heavens, no! If you’ve read some of our older posts and comments, you’ll know that our philosophical worldview is that of the Founding Fathers:

      1. Being a fallen people, all human beings have good and evil within us.
      2. No group (racial, ethnic, cultural, gender, political, ideological…) has the monopoly on good or evil; there’s good and evil in every group.
      3. Power corrupts.
      4. Therefore, the healthy attitude towards ANY government (Democrat or Republican) should be one of skeptical wariness, which is why a limited government is preferable over a huge Nanny state.

      To quote a very wise articulate man: “If once they [the people] become inattentive to the public affairs, you and I, and Congress, and Assemblies, Judges, and Governors, shall all become wolves.” –Thomas Jefferson, letter to Edward Carrington, 1787.

  3. This long enraged rant of a comment was deleted for obscene name-calling (“right wing a**holes” “n*ggers”) which violates Fellowship of the Minds’ stated policy.

    If this persists, commenter will be banned from this blog.

    ~Administrator

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